He Got Beat Up By A Girl On His Business Trip, And His Wife Doesn’t Believe He Has PTSD From It
This 43-year-old man was recently on a business trip and attended a conference that lasted all day. When the conference was finished, he decided to take a walk around the city.
As he was walking, he encountered two young women standing outside of a bar and arguing loudly with one another.
From what he gathered, one screaming at the other and accusing her of sleeping with her boyfriend, stealing him, or both of those things.
The whole exchange was intense and emotional, and no other bystanders were attempting to intervene, even though it clearly appeared to him that the women were about to come to blows.
Given that he was easily a foot taller than them and weighed 100 pounds more, he thought he should try to de-escalate the situation at hand.
The young women reminded him of his own daughters, as they were around the same age, and they appeared pretty harmless to him.
He stepped in the middle of the women and admits he said to them in a pretty patronizing way that they should calm down.
One of the women ran away while insulting the other, and the second girl just stared at him without saying a word.
He wasn’t concerned, but the look on his face was starting to bother him. And then, this woman began punching him.
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He told her again to calm down, as she proceeded to wordlessly hit him several more times. It really hurt a lot.
His stomach dropped as he realized there was no way for him to gain control of the situation, and things were unfolding in a way he never expected.
“She just very easily and completely beat…me and had me on the ground almost instantly,” he explained.
“Then she started cursing me out as she was hitting me until other people pulled her off. The whole thing was probably under a minute.”
He has never been in a fight in his life, let alone got punched directly in the face. Yet, this young woman punched him right in the face multiple times.
Not only was that incredibly painful for him, but then this woman kicked him in the chest and knocked him to the ground before climbing on top of him to continue the attack.
He couldn’t believe a woman his own daughter’s size and age could do this to him, and he began sobbing while begging her to let up.
“My image of myself as a grown man who can defend himself was instantly shattered in a humiliating way,” he continued.
It felt like an eternity before other people jumped in to pull her off of him. The woman ran away as the people who came to his aid asked if they should call him an ambulance.
Several people caught photos of the woman before she made her escape and asked if they should call the police so he could file a report against her.
While he accepted the offer of medical attention, he declined to involve the police. An EMT arrived on the scene and reminded him that it’s super dangerous to get involved in a physical altercation, even if the other person is smaller.
He knows that what he did was foolish, and he wishes he never tried to help, but he truly thought he could.
When he got home and told his wife about what happened, she was furious. But that has passed, and now his wife is obsessing over the fact that a woman the same age as their daughter damaged him so much.
His wife even asked if he was a coward before wondering how he could have allowed such a thing to happen to him, a full-grown, sizeable, adult man.
“She says she always felt safe with me and now is not as sure,” he added. “She’s of the mind that fighting in the first place was stupid, but if I did fight, how…did I lose so easily to a young woman?”
“My wife is very progressive…so I don’t get this. She would argue that women are just as capable as men in anything, and we’ve raised our daughters that way. My older daughter told me that there are women who get into fights, and they don’t care if you are a guy or a girl if they are angry at you. They don’t have this notion that girls don’t ever fight guys that I grew up with.”
“She doesn’t want to even discuss it anymore. I have started having flashbacks to being on the ground and helpless. I started noticing claustrophobia from feeling trapped somewhere, simply like having my path blocked or sitting all the way in the back of a packed subway. None of this bothered me before. My wife doesn’t want to hear it.”
He does have insurance, but it’s awful, so he would have to pay out of pocket to seek therapy for the PTSD he’s suffering, but his wife won’t allow him to.
She doesn’t believe he has PTSD, and he thinks his wife is ashamed of him or disgusted by him. She’s also not speaking to him really right now.
He knows he learned a very valuable life lesson, but in the process, it exposed an enormous flaw in his marriage. He’s left wondering if there’s anything he can do to salvage his marriage or if he should walk away.
What do you think?
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