He Told His Daughter She Sabotaged Herself By Applying To A Community College Instead Of A “Real School”
Did you grow up around people or parents who saw those who went to a community college instead of a state or Ivy League school “less than?”
If so, you know how frustrating it can be to deal with people who are critical about higher education.
One man recently fought with his daughter, who decided to go to a community college instead of a state school against his wishes.
He’s 51 and has three kids with his ex-wife. All of his kids are teenagers, and his daughter, who is 18, recently started college. Ever since he and his wife split up, they’ve had 50/50 custody of their kids.
He has a college fund set up for all of his children, but he has a rule his kids must follow before he allows them to use it.
“I had an agreement with them that they would receive it after graduating high school as long as they attended a state university, not [a] community college,” he explained.
“I wanted to set them up for success later on, and I knew future employers would take them more seriously if their degree was from a legitimate four-year college.”
Last spring, when his daughter was applying to schools, she asked for his tax return information so she could fill out financial aid forms. When he went to help her, he noticed she was applying to attend a community college.
His daughter explained that her mom encouraged her to attend a community college because they waived tuition fees for first-time students.
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“I told her that she shouldn’t be asking me for my information if she was going to use it to do something that I’ve made clear I don’t support,” he said.
“She told me she thought I just meant I was against paying for it, and I told her that I had been crystal clear, she knew what I had meant, and she was being sneaky and taking the easy way out.”
Eventually, he stormed away from his daughter, and they didn’t speak for a while. She later contacted him to inform him that she used her mom’s financial information to apply to the community college and had to enroll one semester later than planned because of the whole debacle.
Then, his daughter told him that since he didn’t want to help her, she’d move in with her mom full-time.
“I told her that was ridiculous, she was being petty, and that she sabotaged herself,” he recalled.
“If she had just enrolled in a real college like I told her to, she would’ve been able to complete the paperwork without a problem. She told me she hated me and was cold and distant to me until she moved out permanently.”
He hasn’t spoken to his daughter since she started school, and now his younger kids are mentioning that they miss spending time with her at his house.
Does he owe his daughter an apology?
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