He Broke Up With His Cheating Girlfriend And Reconnected With An Old Female Friend, Who He Just Proposed To, But Now His Ex Is Accusing Him Of Moving On Too Fast And Throwing Their Relationship Away
Four years ago, this 25-year-old man ended his relationship with a woman named Claire, 25, because she’d been having an affair with a man at her job whom she’d nicknamed her “‘work husband.'”
Before he found out about Claire’s affair, he had a gut feeling for quite a while, but he was shocked when it was confirmed.
After he discovered Claire was cheating on him, he didn’t tell her that he knew because he was too emotionally exhausted to have that conversation.
Instead, he waited several months for the lease to end on the apartment they were living in together. Even though he distanced himself, Claire didn’t question if something was wrong. After their lease ended, he dumped Claire and moved out.
“I told Claire I knew what she did, we were over, and to never contact me again before blocking her number,” he said.
Four months after the breakup, he got back in touch with a woman named Ada, with whom he’d been friends during high school.
Ada was wonderful and the complete opposite of Claire. He always felt butterflies when he told anyone about Ada, whom he described as kind, intelligent, and hilarious.
Over the course of those four months, Claire tried to reach him using other phone numbers, but he blocked every new number she called him from. Claire finally gave up trying to contact him after a while.
“Ada and I started hanging out, clicked almost immediately, and have been dating for three years. On Valentine’s Day, I proposed to her, she said yes, and I made a Facebook post about how happy I was,” he explained.
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Several weeks ago, someone from an unknown phone number sent him a text message calling him a jerk. After asking who the person was, he learned it was Claire.
“She said I was a jerk for throwing everything away, not giving her another chance, and refusing to talk through what happened,” he shared.
“She said I moved on too fast, that four months wasn’t enough for someone to ‘grieve,’ and it was weird.”
Later, he explained what had happened to Ada, and in her view, Claire was attention-seeking and trying to make him question himself.
He blocked the latest phone number Claire had texted him from, but several days afterward, she texted him from yet another number, telling him he was a jerk.
He doesn’t know why Claire is so invested in his life years after their breakup, especially since the reason their relationship ended was due to her infidelity.
Now he’s wondering if he was wrong to jump into a new relationship so soon instead of taking time to mourn the breakup from Claire.
What advice would you give him?
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