His Wife Constantly Talks To Her Ex, Who Has Told Her He Loves Her More Than 400 Times
A year and a half ago, this 45-year-old man got married to his 54-year-old wife, and back then, he realized his wife was acting weird about her phone and keeping it constantly with her.
So, he bought her a new one so he could take advantage of going through what was on her old one. When he went digging, he found some shocking things.
He learned that his wife’s 58-year-old ex-boyfriend from college reached out to her about a year before he met his wife.
The conversation kicked off with his wife’s ex telling his wife that she was the “one” for him and would be forever. Now, this guy is married with a child.
“The text messages showed him telling her he loved her over 400 times from that day forward, including during the time we were engaged and even married,” he explained.
“2 weeks before our wedding, he texted her, “I love you more than you can ever imagine.” Some other highlights included her texting him a pic in a bikini (which I had taken for her) and him responding that she has [an incredible body].”
When he found all of the messages, he informed his wife that she had to stop speaking to her ex if they wanted to make sure their marriage would last.
His wife simply said she’s super great friends with her ex, and he’s not a threat in any way since he’s married and lives in a different state.
Despite his request that his wife cut her ex out of her life, she has refused to do this. She kept texting and even calling her ex for the first year of their marriage, and that became a point of contention for them.
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He could always tell when his wife had been speaking to her ex, as immediately after her texts and calls to this man, his wife would treat him terribly and call him names.
“This entire time, she has been gaslighting me by telling me it’s nothing to worry about and that I’m being paranoid and unreasonable,” he said.
“That the reason they talk is because she needs emotional support for me drinking and being a bad husband in general. “I’m a bad guy that wont let her have any friends.” “I am a watchdog who surveils her every move and won’t let her out of the house.” All this is completely and totally false.”
“She even had the guy call me and tell me it was harmless and that I should not try to stop them, as it will only make my wife want to call him all the more.”
Currently, his wife has decreased the interactions she has with her ex, though they speak at least two or three times in a given week.
He felt as if he had no choice but to stop putting up such a fight about it, and when his wife does call her ex when she’s around him, he’s not so bothered by it.
What upsets him is when his wife calls her ex and then attempts to hide it from him.
“This guy’s wife knows they talk, but has no idea the things he’s said to her,” he continued. “I’m kind of waiting to see if she can actually hold to her promises that she’ll only talk to him in my presence.”
“If I catch her hiding it again, the guy’s wife is going to know absolutely everything. What are everyone’s thoughts here?”
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