Her Boyfriend’s Falling In Love With A Girl He Just Met, And He’s Taking Her Out To Dinner Tonight To Talk
For close to five years now, this 22-year-old girl has been with her 23-year-old boyfriend. They met at the start of college and have been dating ever since.
After graduating, they both moved back in with their parents in order to be able to save up a lot of money before getting a place together.
They go about two or three weeks without seeing one another, and her boyfriend has never been fond of talking on the phone or texting.
There have been a couple of bumps in their relationship, and she says it boils down to when they’re not spending time together.
“I’ve been cheated on in the past and can be a bit insecure,” she admitted. “He is also significantly more attractive than I am, and the people around us tend to still flirt with him despite knowing I exist.”
“Anyway, we are both really into pickleball. He plays pretty much every day after work. Of course, he meets a lot of people when he’s playing, and everyone wants to play with him because he’s quite good and hoping to play professionally. There is a girl (24F) there who always wants to be his partner and consistently flirts with him (calling him attractive and commenting about his body).”
“Whenever I’m around she makes a point to ignore me and talk to just my boyfriend. This doesn’t really bother me, but I’ve taken to joking about it with him when he goes out for drinks with friends and she’s there.”
A new 27-year-old girl named Jo just moved to their area, and she has started playing pickleball where they do.
As soon as Jo started coming around, she joked over the phone to her boyfriend about how Jo is clearly going to take the place of the other girl crushing on him.
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This call happened when they were apart for their two or three-week stretch, and her boyfriend immediately fell silent on the other end of the line.
She made another joke about how it had to be happening again, and there’s another girl that’s into him.
Her boyfriend said he wasn’t sure before adding that he plays pickleball with Jo practically every single day.
Apparently, Jo texts him a lot to ask when he’s playing so she can join him. She simply said it was nice for her boyfriend to have people he likes to play with, and their conversation ended.
Several days later, she asked her boyfriend in the morning what his plans for the day were, and he went hours without responding to her.
“I was kind of freaked out because he usually at least responds every couple of hours,” she said. “I checked life360 and noticed he was in a parking lot.”
“I didn’t want to assume the worst because sometimes that app isn’t the most accurate. A couple of hours later, I got a text that he was out listening to music and drinking with two friends.”
“I said that sounded like fun and asked who with. “Jo and one of her work friends, but the friend had to leave early.” No big deal as long as nothing is going on— I’m sure she knows he is in a relationship.”
Last weekend, she was supposed to visit her boyfriend, and she was thrilled to be introduced to the new friends he made.
When she got to his house, she was surprised to see he wasn’t home. After her boyfriend finally returned, he asked her if she would like to grab dinner with all of his friends.
She and her boyfriend went to a restaurant with his friends, and when she asked about what girl was Jo, one of her boyfriend’s friends said Jo was not interested in coming after she found out that he wasn’t single.
“So she had been hanging out with my boyfriend thinking he was single. I wonder why my boyfriend didn’t tell her,” she continued.
“The next day, I finally got to meet Jo. She seemed to be friendly when other people were listening but not very nice when it was just us talking.”
“She made several comments under her breath while we were playing and continued being flirty with my boyfriend (also, that weekend, my boyfriend and I played in a tournament together. She came to watch him and congratulate him when he won).”
Over that weekend, she also noticed her boyfriend was texting Jo nonstop, and remember, he’s not normally into texting much at all. He barely texts her, and they’re in a relationship.
Anyway, her boyfriend confessed to her that he never told Jo about her at all, and when Jo found out that they’re dating, she was extremely upset.
“He also mentioned that she was attractive, and he got butterflies in his stomach when they were out one night together,” she added.
“This launched into a conversation about our life together and what this means. Many tears later, my boyfriend decided he did not know exactly what to do.”
“The timing was not ideal because I was flying out of the country for a few weeks. I asked him to avoid being with her alone until I got back and we could talk again. This morning I woke up to a text that he was taking her out to dinner to talk about it all. I don’t really know what to do.”
What advice do you have for her?
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