His Sister Is Furious With Him For Refusing To Give Her Money Now That She’s About To Be A Single Mom
This 32-year-old man has a 34-year-old sister named Emily who has dreamed of being a mom since she can remember.
Emily just hasn’t been able to meet Mr. Right, and after years of trying to find the perfect guy, he told Emily to look into IVF. He helped her do the research, and Emily thought it was an excellent idea.
“Emily had the financial means to afford IVF on her own, but it meant she had to cut back on creature comforts and luxuries for the foreseeable future,” he explained.
“Two months ago, after her fourth round of treatment, she got pregnant. The whole family is very happy for her, and she’s happy too. She didn’t expect it to take so many rounds of treatment, though, so the bill ended up higher than she was prepared for.”
“She does have enough money to support herself, but not very comfortably. She asked our family for help so she wouldn’t have to make even more sacrifices.”
Their mom and dad are retired and have to live on a set income, so they were out for helping Emily financially. This only left him.
A week ago, Emily straight up asked him for some money. He doesn’t have a problem if someone wants to choose to be a single parent so long as they can afford to do so.
But the fact that Emily is now expecting him to help finance her decision doesn’t sit right with him. He knows being a single parent isn’t cheap, and Emily didn’t quite think of that.
Now, he has a newborn son and a wife. He does have money saved up, but he’s earmarking it to keep his family living comfortably, and he also wants to purchase a bigger home.
Svetlana – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
So, he told Emily sorry, he wasn’t able to help her fund her life.
“Emily was heartbroken and furious,” he said. “She argued that family is supposed to support each other and that I’m being selfish and judgmental.”
“Our parents are also upset with me, saying that I’m not being a good brother. They think I should help her because she’s family, and this is her dream.”
“They’re especially upset because it was my idea, and I helped her research it. I offered to help Emily by letting her eat dinner with us nightly since she lives nearby and letting her use my car, which is cheaper to run since it’s electric. She said that’s not nearly enough.”
But he has a family of his own and things he needs to achieve with more money saved up, so he can’t help Emily.
He thinks it’s crazy for his family to pressure him into financially assisting Emily, especially since it puts him in a hard place moneywise for a choice that Emily made on her own.
Additionally, it’s not like Emily is struggling that badly. She owns a house a bit larger than his own and even makes more than he does.
“She can absolutely afford a child,” he added. “She took from savings to pay for the fourth round of IVF and is rebuilding it as fast as possible by not spending.”
“It isn’t like she didn’t budget; she just doesn’t like being frugal. She also did take me up on the offer to temporarily trade cars and eat dinner with my family nightly. IVF was not my first suggestion. She wouldn’t adopt because she wants a biological child.”
He’s left wondering if it’s wrong of him to decline to help Emily financially after all due to the pushback he’s getting from his loved ones. What do you think?
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