His Wife Asked For A Separation After Admitting She’s No Longer In Love With Him, But Now She Wants Him Back
It was seven years ago when this 41-year-old man quit his job so his 38-year-old wife would have the ability to pursue her dream career in a tiny town.
He moved away from his friends and his family and made a lot of sacrifices for his wife. Then two years ago, his wife landed an enormous promotion at work that was located an hour away from their little town.
She was given a house to live in, along with the promotion. Two months into her promotion, she broke his heart after admitting she’s no longer in love with him.
“[She] said, “I love you, like how I love a friend or my favorite piece of furniture,” he explained. “I did the dumb thing and begged and pleaded with her to stay and try.”
“She said she would try, but no therapy and she hated how I worked nights. I changed to a day job, and she said that it didn’t work.”
“So while I worked in town and looked after the kids during the week, she would come home on the weekends. Sometimes, saying “I love you,” spending time with me, and cuddling. Then, for a month or two, she would be cold and distant. If I tried to talk about us, she would shut down.”
That was really the beginning of the roller coaster ride for him, as his wife played with his emotions.
The house in town was rented in his wife’s name, and he made less money working a day job, so he never moved out to get his own place.
His wife started coming back home less and less, and then he heard through their small town’s grapevine that his wife was partying and drinking like crazy.
Ivan – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Members of his community additionally informed him that his wife was having an affair with one of her male coworkers.
His wife has been polite to him, but not a part of his life. Two weeks ago, he went to his wife’s home as one of their children had a sleepover birthday party.
When he walked into her home, he was shocked by her photo wall, which contained pictures of their kids, some of her friends, and her male coworker she was having an affair with.
He questioned his wife about where they stood, but she didn’t respond to him. He then asked his wife why they were still doing certain things together, like the birthday party, if she didn’t want to try to fix things.
He finally blurted out that he wanted to get a divorce, as the not knowing is killing him slowly. His wife stated that if he files for divorce, she will ensure she gets full custody of their kids.
Even if they did win split custody, his kids would still have to take an hour-long ride to school from his wife’s house, which is inconvenient for them.
“I went home feeling sick and stuck,” he said. “Last week during the holidays, me and the kids went for a day trip with a single mom and her kids.”
“It was just platonic, and it was a great day. My wife was home when we got home, and my kids told her about the whole day.”
Over the course of the last week, his wife has been telling him she loves him, which she hasn’t said to him in well over a year.
Perhaps she felt jealous over his outing with the single mom, and that made her change her tune, but he’s not certain about this.
He hasn’t said that he loves his wife back since he’s confused about their entire relationship. His wife has brought up their future, and even suggested that she move home to be with him and the kids.
He finally made peace with his wife no longer wanting to be together, so for her to act like she now wants him back is really throwing him for a loop.
He’s stressed out and upset, but now that he has rented the house in his name and gotten a new circle of lovely friends, he doesn’t think he wants to be with his wife anymore.
What advice do you have for him?
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