Her Boyfriend Wants To Propose To Her With His Mom’s Engagement Ring, But She’s Worried About Saying Yes
Wedding discussions have been happening frequently between this 28-year-old woman and her 26-year-old boyfriend, and although they have been together for close to three years, she wants to wait to tie the knot.
She’s worried about finances and the fact that they are in a temporary apartment that they would like to leave soon.
Additionally, she and her boyfriend will be encountering career and college changes in the near future.
Considering all of those factors, that’s why she wants to wait to get married. Meanwhile, her boyfriend has been talking about engagement rings.
This week, her boyfriend brought up his mom’s engagement ring and that he wants to propose to her with it.
Tragically, his dad passed away eight years ago, and his mom no longer wears her engagement or wedding rings, though she has them.
“I believe she had his wedding band made into a necklace so she could wear it when she wants, but she doesn’t wear her own rings anymore (I think it makes her sad to look down and be reminded of him every time she sees the rings),” she explained.
Now, she realizes how meaningful it would be to wear her boyfriend’s mom’s engagement ring, but she’s hesitating about saying yes.
One reason is that she has no clue what the ring even looks like, let alone if it would fit on her finger.
kristina_1994 – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She would feel terrible if her boyfriend proposed, and she hated the ring. It would also cause her too much stress to have a jeweler remake the ring into something that is her style.
“My main concern is if he gave me the ring, I altered it, and then something awful happened where we ended up separating, and I had to give the ring back (worst case scenario, I know, but I’m a worrisome person) I would have desecrated a family heirloom and feel awful,” she admitted.
“I brought this up by simply asking if I could see the ring and possibly try it on, but I think he’s wanting it to be a surprise, like most proposals. I think this would also be a cheaper option for him since he doesn’t make a lot of money.”
Her boyfriend stated he could forgo his mom’s ring and purchase her something that she does like, but that adds to her unrest.
Her boyfriend is the kind of guy who would easily be taken advantage of while ring shopping and could potentially spend way too much money.
Her boyfriend is a total sweetheart for trying to make her happy, but she can’t figure out what would be best.
“Should I ask for the family heirloom and make it work and be grateful, or ask for what I want so I know I’ll love it, or is there a third option?” she wondered.
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