Her Friend’s In The Hospital After Suffering A Mental Breakdown, And She Feels Guilty For Being The Trigger
This 30-year-old woman met her 31-year-old friend two years ago since her husband is close to this woman’s boyfriend.
While she and her friend didn’t instantly hit it off, they occasionally spoke since their significant others are friendly.
“A couple months after we met, I suffered a really traumatic spontaneous second trimester miscarriage hours after announcing it to friends and family,” she explained.
“She reached out to offer her condolences, and we began chatting more, although it was primarily about her relationship issues.”
Several weeks later, her friend sent her a super rude text stating she was pregnant and not planning to go through with it.
Remember, she had just suffered a miscarriage, and she wasn’t doing well mentally. So, she began to back away from her friend, but they still texted here and there.
She didn’t call her friend out for being so insensitive, and she was never once nasty to her. She simply kept their contact short and sweet.
“On top of that, I found out I was pregnant too and was navigating a very high-risk pregnancy and just didn’t have the bandwidth to deal with her or anyone else’s drama,” she said.
“Luckily, both of our pregnancies were successful, and she began reaching out to me more and more after I had my baby. Since we were both going through postpartum together, I decided to engage. However, most of her communications turned to her relationship issues again.”
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“There was always some sort of drama. From my perspective, I tried to help her as best as I could, chatting via text or over the phone whenever she needed to, inviting her to our house whenever they had a fight, even late at night, etc.”
Throughout the last couple of months, her friend would bombard her with messages, seeking her help, then ghost her.
Days later, her friend would pop up again, asking if they could talk on the phone. When she would say yes, her friend would stop replying for days on end.
She found the cycle obnoxious, and any time she would try to put some more distance between them, her friend would send her 30 messages in a row or text her husband to see why she was failing to respond.
She felt so terrible she would relent and reach back out. About a week ago, her friend started up again with this, so she eventually said she’s not sure what kind of help her friend even needs as she always fails to respond in a timely manner.
“Well, she didn’t like that; she sent me a very long rude message accusing me of expecting her to answer immediately when she is going through a lot of relationship issues (she and her partner may be going through a breakup, I think), told me I was petty for limiting my communication with her after my miscarriage, and said some unkind things about my 6-month-old daughter,” she added.
“She also accused me of blocking her on social media (I didn’t; I had deactivated my account a day ago), then proceeded to block me, not before saying she wanted nothing to do with me anymore.”
The day this all went down, she had to attend her uncle’s funeral, so in hindsight, she thinks her patience was non-existent due to what she’s been dealing with on her end.
She knows she should have waited until she was in a better place to call out her friend and that her unloading wasn’t a great idea since her friend was also dealing with a lot.
She was so frustrated she kind of just let it all slip out, and the tension had been building up for some time.
“Unfortunately, I recently heard that she experienced a breakdown right after all of this happened and is now in the hospital, and I am feeling very guilty and worried my response may have triggered all of this,” she continued.
“How can I let go of this guilt? She has a lot of stuff going on, and I now regret the message I sent her.”
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