He’s Getting Rid Of The Foster Child His Mom Took In 7 Years Ago
For the last 11 years, this 30-year-old man’s mom took in foster children. Right before his mom passed away, she made him promise her one thing: he had to take over her foster children after she died.
His mom was diagnosed with heart failure, yet lived a surprising 7 years after she was diagnosed. His mom had two foster kids who came to live with him after she passed away, and they’re named J and P.
He was only 19 when J moved in with him as an 8-year-old. J had severe behavioral problems associated with past trauma.
“My world was turned upside down,” he explained. “But I very quickly grew to love him. Underneath the trauma and the difficulties, he was an amazing boy who I loved with my entire heart.”
“He’s now 19 himself and still lives with me. He just finished high school, and I have no plans to move him out until he is ready. J and I have a great relationship.”
As for P, he’s currently 16 and was 9 when he got him. P does have very severe special needs. Although he’s tried his hardest to bond with P, he can’t.
J’s behavioral demands never irritated him, but P’s do. P irritated him to no end, and he has to constantly tell himself that P functions more like a 3 or 4-year-old instead of a teen.
He fully supported his mom when she decided to take in P. But he was aware that after she passed, he was going to really struggle to care for the boy.
“I didn’t sign up to do this,” he said. “I didn’t sign up to look after him for the rest of my life; I just didn’t.”
ChiccoDodiFC – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“Mum died 6 months ago, and I said to myself I would try. I kept P for all this time, but I just can’t cope with him. I can’t. I told my social worker that he needs to be moved by the end of the month because I just can’t manage.”
He adores being a foster dad, and it’s something he wants to continue doing in the future. That being said, he isn’t able to meet P’s needs.
He feels awfully guilty for promising his mom that he would provide for P until he hits 18, and he can’t fulfill that promise.
He’s beginning to resent P, and he knows that is not fair to the boy. P deserves to find a family who loves him the way he simply cannot.
“So yeah. Call me selfish, call me scum. Whatever. I deserve it,” he concluded. What advice do you have for him?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Relationships