She Despises Herself For Wanting To Divorce Her Amazing Husband
14 years ago, this 35-year-old woman started dating her 38-year-old husband, and 12 years ago, they got married.
She says they have built a special life together, and they have two children: an 8-year-old daughter and a 5-year-old son.
“I have no complaints about the man I am married to – he is loyal, honest, a hard worker,” she explained.
“He does everything for us and adores both me and our children. I have never had to question his faithfulness, he’s never been the slightest bit abusive, he keeps up with his end of the housework (plus more, if I’m honest). He is not perfect, but he is an amazing husband, father, and friend.”
“However, I have not been attracted to him for years and find myself wondering if I’m “in love.” I adore the person he is… he is my absolute best friend.”
She frequently dreams about being alone, being single. She doesn’t have an interest in dating other men; it’s not that.
It’s just that she has fallen out of love with her husband, and that makes her want to walk away. Over the last four years, she has contemplated divorcing her husband more times than she can count, but she’s never gone through with it for the sake of their children.
Lately, she’s been thinking about divorce more and more, and it might be time for her to act on this.
“Yes, we go on dates frequently and try to find activities that we enjoy together,” she said. “I have been pushing myself to be [close] with him more in the hopes that I will overcome all these feelings, but I just find myself not turned on in the slightest.”
Jelena – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“It has nothing to do with his physical appearance – he is very handsome and takes care of himself. I just am not into it.”
She’s started going to therapy in an effort to manage her feelings, and she does have some trauma from her past that she wants to overcome.
Additionally, she and her husband are going to marriage counseling together soon, but she doubts that will be helpful as they don’t have any real issues to discuss.
Their marriage is excellent, and they never fight. They agree on absolutely everything and are a unified team when it comes to taking care of their children and their house.
“This would be so much easier if he wasn’t so great,” she admitted. “I despise myself for saying I am considering divorcing such a wonderful man.”
“It absolutely breaks my heart to think that I’d be hurting him and hurting our children. I’m not saying that I will divorce, but I have certainly considered it multiple times.”
“I have no real “reason” to leave other than unhappiness on my part. I know he’d go out of his way to try to make me happy. However, I don’t think there’s anything that can be done on his end… I’m so torn between spending the rest of my life sacrificing my own happiness for that of my husband/best friend and children or risking it all to find myself.”
What advice do you have for her?
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