Her Husband Confessed That He’s Falling For A Coworker And He Feels Guilty
Lately, this 39-year-old woman has grown concerned over how close her 40-year-old husband has become to one of his female coworkers.
He’s been telling her that he gets along wonderfully with his coworker and that they have been texting a lot outside of work hours.
Several months ago, she finally challenged her husband about this since she had a growing feeling of discomfort and was no longer willing to overlook the amount of chatting her husband was doing with this woman.
“He broke down and admitted they have mutual feelings for each other, but they have not gone beyond talking,” she explained.
“I have no reason to believe there has been anything physical, but I know they have both spoken about their feelings and are both torn apart with guilt over catching these feelings. I can see how this has impacted him both mentally and physically; the guilt is there, and it’s real.”
“We have since had some really in-depth conversations about the state of our own relationship prior to all of this. He loves me deeply, but things had not been great. We have both struggled with distance due to work and having a very young child. I know things weren’t perfect, and I know I am to blame for the poor state of our relationship before she even came on the scene.”
After giving birth to her son, she dedicated herself to her career, and it came at the expense of her husband.
She ignored his needs emotionally and physically, as she was overwhelmed with balancing her job and being a new mom.
She’s wrestling with how to move ahead with him. It’s not like she can ask her husband to quit his job, as he works in a very specific industry, and he’s the breadwinner.
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Her husband works very closely with his coworker that he’s falling for, so there’s also not an opportunity for her husband to refuse to see this woman in the office.
“I feel powerless. I know he can’t just shut off his feelings for her; I know he has to see her every day,” she said.
“It kills me that I can’t even be angry with him because I love him so much, and I can see how much he’s hurting. I know she leans on him about her own guilt about this situation. He tells me I shouldn’t be mad with her, but I can’t help but wonder why she can’t just leave him alone.”
Her son is young, yet he’s even picking up on things being strained at home. She’s trying her best to fix her marriage and forge a stronger connection with her husband, which is working, but she’s curious about when she should put her foot down.
Her husband’s coworker isn’t going anywhere, and she’s terrified that her husband may leave her for this other woman.
“I’m just feeling so torn and hollow,” she continued. “I’m trying to hold our marriage together, to support the man I love who is so obviously broken over this.”
“If we get through this, I feel like we will come out stronger, but I don’t know how long I can hold it together. I can’t just make him stop caring about her overnight, but how long can I keep this up?”
“Do I eventually give him some kind of ultimatum? What does that even look like? It’s starting to feel more and more like a fool the longer this goes on.”
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