She Can’t Get Behind Her Sister’s Marriage, So She Said No To Being Her Maid Of Honor
Ever since this 28-year-old woman was little, she’s been glued to her 26-year-old sister Emily’s hip. They have a very special bond, and it’s only strengthened as the years have gone by.
Two years ago, Emily began dating a 31-year-old man named John, and she instantly thought he wasn’t a nice guy. While John can charm you, he’s manipulative and fake.
“I’ve seen him make snide comments about my sister’s appearance when he thinks no one’s listening, and he belittles her in public, though he tries to make it seem like he’s “joking,” she explained.
“It’s those little digs that build up over time. I’ve brought it up with Emily before, and she just brushes it off or says, “That’s just how he is; I don’t take it personally.”
Emily is getting married to John soon, and a month ago, Emily invited her to be her Maid of Honor.
She replied to Emily that she would have to consider being a part of her wedding since she can’t get behind her sister’s marriage.
She does not support Emily getting married to John. She’s convinced John will only make the rest of Emily’s life a nightmare, and she can’t believe her sister can’t see this.
She took a couple of days to mull everything over, and then she informed Emily that she simply cannot be there with her at the altar.
“I explained how uncomfortable I am with how John treats her and that I couldn’t, in good conscience, be part of a day that celebrates their relationship,” she said.
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“She was furious. She told me I was being overdramatic, that I “just don’t like John,” and that I was letting my personal feelings ruin her special day.”
“Our parents are upset with me too and think I’m “ruining the family” by not supporting her wedding. They say I should put my feelings aside because “Emily is happy.” But is she really happy if she’s constantly making excuses for his behavior? I just don’t want to see her trapped in a toxic marriage.”
Emily is currently no longer speaking with her, and she has asked one of their mutual friends to be her Maid of Honor instead.
She’s left feeling shattered and as if she’s losing Emily. A piece of her believes she perhaps should have just said yes to Emily in order to maintain their relationship.
However, another piece of her thinks it was right of her to stand up for her belief that John isn’t the right pick for Emily.
Do you think it was wrong of her to speak her mind to Emily and decline such a special role in her wedding?
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