He And His Girlfriend Took A Break Last Year, And Now His Brother’s Marrying Her
A year ago, this 28-year-old guy named Cole and his 27-year-old girlfriend Claire went on a break after two years of dating.
Looking back, it was hardly a mature decision, and they did not end up creating boundaries around said break.
“I think she saw it more as us breaking things off, but I had always hoped that we would get back together after a while, but I didn’t say it out loud,” Cole explained.
They spent two months without speaking to one another. Then, towards the end of December, his 26-year-old brother Ben let it slip that he had slept with Claire at their family’s cabin.
“I was at first just shocked, but then hurt and kind of disgusted,” Cole said. “I was less upset at the fact that Claire had moved on, which I was still annoyed at, but more upset that she slept with my brother.”
He texted Claire to confront her, and she reacted like it wasn’t an enormous deal that she hooked up with Ben.
Claire called him a jerk and insisted he wasn’t allowed to be involved in her personal life like this, considering they were on a break.
Cole then went back to Ben to talk more about the whole situation with Claire, and Ben promised he wouldn’t do something like this again since it “was a mistake.”
He was able to forgive Ben and put it behind him. Ben said he ghosted Claire and would not be trying to date her.
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This June, Cole learned through a mutual friend that Ben lied to him, and had been dating Claire since around New Year’s.
Angrily, Cole confronted Ben, and Ben spilled his heart out. Apparently Ben was in love with Claire and expected Cole to accept that she was the man he wanted.
He hardly spoke to Ben following that conversation, which hurt since they were always super close as brothers.
“Now, just last week, invites were sent out to Ben and Claire’s wedding, which I am invited to,” Cole added.
“I was shocked, and it opened up a wound that definitely hadn’t healed, but most of my family and mutual friends said it was obvious they loved each other and that I need to show up to support my brother on his big day, and that I can get over my ex being his wife.”
“I feel like I’m going crazy. Most of my friends agree with me, and my uncle has been vocal about siding with me. The girl I’m seeing right now also thinks that everyone is acting insane and that this is not normal. I don’t think it’s normal. But it’s happening this spring, and I have to decide what to do.”
Cole loves his brother Ben, but he can’t see how he can sit through this wedding when Ben lied to his face about his involvement with Claire.
He also only broke up with Claire a year ago, so it’s so unfair to him that Ben just swooped in to sweep her off her feet.
He’s having a hard time working through his feelings, and he’s not sure how to talk to his family about everything.
What advice do you have for him?
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