Her Aunt Promised To Let Her Inherit Her Home If She Agrees To Care For Her Disabled Cousin
This 22-year-old woman has a 25-year-old cousin named Mia, and Mia is intellectually disabled as well as autistic.
Mia operates more on a 10-year-old level than an adult level. She can handle the basics, but Mia isn’t able to stay at home by herself overnight or leave her house alone. Mia also cannot have a job, so she receives a disability check.
“I’m also autistic, and she’s always had a certain affinity for me and said that she feels that I understand her,” she explained.
“Mia’s mother, my aunt, has recently been diagnosed with cancer. She’s undergoing treatment, but she is very sick and has been told there is a very real chance of it becoming terminal. This has caused her to worry about who Mia is going to live with if she passes away.”
“My mother talked to my aunt and said on my behalf (without even speaking to me) that I may be interested in living with Mia, which my aunt thinks is a great idea.”
Her aunt has since sent her a very long text message, promising to let her inherit her home if she agrees to care for Mia.
She knows that’s a very kind thing for her aunt to even offer, and she does feel appreciative, but this puts her in a tough place.
She thinks Mia would do better in an assisted living facility as opposed to living with loved ones for her entire life.
Her other concern is that should she sign up to be Mia’s caregiver, that could impact the remainder of her own life.
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“I feel like everyone’s just assuming that I want to do this,” she said. “But in the future, I would like to get married and have children, and how is taking care of Mia going to affect that?”
“Mia is an only child but I have older siblings, yet no one’s asked them if they’d want to look after Mia.”
“I explained these points to my mother, and she got very upset. She said she understands that I may not want to take care of my cousin but that she is still family and that there’s no point asking my siblings because they’re “too busy” (they all work full-time, but so do I).”
She’s left wondering if it’s mean of her to not want to agree to care for Mia.
What do you think?
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