She Screamed At Her Husband That She Wishes She Married Someone Else
This woman has two children with her husband, and he’s so grossed out over kid stuff like spit-up incidents and changing diapers that he’s left everything to fall on her shoulders.
She does feel like it is her responsibility to assume all of the childcare-related tasks in their household since he’s the breadwinner.
She never thought she cared that much about having to pull the majority of the parental weight, but it turns out it’s been affecting her more than she realized.
Her kids are challenging right now, as her oldest is potty training, and her youngest is a baby who requires constant feedings.
Yesterday evening, she had to help potty train her oldest while feeding her youngest at the exact same time, and it was a lot to juggle.
She asked her husband to help feed the baby so she could focus on her toddler, and he unwillingly agreed.
While she was with her toddler, she heard her husband yelling from another room since the baby spit up on him.
She hurried along with her toddler, jumped in to finish feeding the baby, and then tucked her toddler into bed.
When both her children were fast asleep, she went back downstairs to find her husband lounging around on the couch with kid toys all over the place.
Yakobchuk Olena – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I cleaned the room and tried to work out my frustration on the treadmill,” she explained. “After that, I grabbed a shower, and he wouldn’t leave me alone about me being in a bad mood, so I went off on him.”
“I yelled and told him he was a bad partner and father, and I wish I married and had kids with someone else. I have been in therapy for a while, so over the years, I have communicated to him that I needed more help with things or how I was feeling.”
“He never listened. He didn’t listen until I was screaming at him. Then I felt like a jerk because I said some really mean things.”
“When we talked this morning, he said he’s not a bad dad because he plays with his kids (he does, but he doesn’t do any of the real parenting stuff. Like getting up, changing diapers, etc.), and he apologized and said he would do better… I don’t believe he will, and I don’t care now.”
She’s upset that things have gotten so bad she felt the need to scream at her husband, and clearly, the resentment has been building up.
She’s curious if they can bounce back from her blowup, and she’s doubting that the expectations she has for her husband are realistic.
What advice do you have for her?
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