He’s Almost Divorced, But Now His Wife Is Begging To Get Him Back, And He’s Dating A New Girl
As 2022 came to an end, this 34-year-old man’s 32-year-old wife requested a divorce. They were married for a decade and together well before then.
He’s not going to dive into how they landed in a spot where his wife wanted to end their marriage, but let’s just say she was deeply unhappy for a while, leading up to her asking for the divorce.
Additionally, he was depressed (they both were back then), and their relationship fell apart faster than he thought it would.
Then, his wife posted a thirst trap photo on social media, and he confronted her about it. His wife felt that he humiliated her and made her feel terrible, and that, on top of their previous problems, led to his wife leaving him.
He desperately attempted to get his wife to change her mind, and finally, she came up with a compromise: they could do a year-long break, live separately, and then see if they could mend their marriage.
He pleaded with his wife to remain living in their home or suggested they could move somewhere new for a fresh start while working to improve everything.
“She didn’t want to,” he explained. “I begged. She made it clear it wasn’t an option. I historically have been very vocal that I didn’t believe in breaks, and paired with some other small potential breaks in trust during this month-long decision process, I said I couldn’t do a break…”
“Statistically, they don’t work, and if things were going to end, at least if we ended things, we could still be on good terms, and if things fell apart during a break, there’s a good chance that wouldn’t be possible.”
His wife stood firm, moved an hour away from him, and the divorce went ahead, along with their separation.
Marco – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person – pictured above a man stands on a sidewalk next to a hedge
He and his wife share two elderly pets, and so they frequently met up to drop them off. But in the beginning, they wound up doing some sleepovers and hanging out.
During the first five or six months, he said he would pay to break one of their leases so they could move back in and remain married.
His wife declined, and so he stopped asking. He gave up. He stopped saying he loved his wife, and he quit spending as much time with her. He knew he had no choice but to move on because that’s what his wife was doing.
As time went on, his wife had a change of heart. She started requesting that they work on their relationship, but he didn’t think it was for the best.
After all, they both worked crazy hours and lived an hour away from one another, so he didn’t think they had the time to invest anymore.
Also, he was trying his best to heal and move forward without her because she had rejected him so many times.
“I know this whole scenario was a bad idea. Time apart was what should have happened from the start, but at the time, I thought it would keep us on good terms and friends,” he admitted.
“Starting in 2024, the time together was an hour or 2 one day a week to sit and have coffee with the animals. She had moved back in with her parents about 20 minutes away to save money.”
“During one of these, she mentioned how doing this is making it hard for her to heal, and she didn’t understand if we were seeing each other, why we weren’t trying, and why we hadn’t done divorce paperwork yet (something that had been brought up a couple times).”
He went home and printed out the divorce papers, but he didn’t give them to his wife for several weeks.
He knew it was time to rip the bandaid off, but it was so difficult for him. When he finally handed the papers over to his wife, she was visibly upset.
One week before they officially filed, someone new walked into his life, and he went on to date this girl.
His wife knew and asked him to keep their pets away from this girl, which was just her being petty about him moving on.
“All summer, she started begging me to get back together with her. It intensified after I started dating this new person,” he said.
“The first scheduled divorce hearing got messed up and pushed back to this month, and everything has intensified. Emotions and all. She wants to get back together.”
“Saying I’m picking a new girl over her and making legal threats, threatening to go after the new girl’s business. I know she was just lashing out and wouldn’t do it because she’s a good person, but I know she’s hurt. She believes I misled her the whole time by spending time with her. I argue I was always clear when she brought up being together that I didn’t think we should.”
This week, they will be having their final divorce hearing, and his wife is coming undone, which makes him feel awful.
He’s honestly concerned, especially since she’s threatening to never speak to him ever again if he follows through with the divorce.
His wife is also promising that he will need to find another person to communicate with to pick up their pets since she won’t make herself available to help him see them. He’s confused, as he thought they were on the same page, and it’s not like he hid that he’s dating a new girl.
“I care about my ex very much and don’t want to cause her the pain, but am I not supposed to move on?” he wondered.
“It was almost a year and a half separated before I even started trying to meet new people.”
What advice do you have for him?
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