She Just Discovered The Secret Her Family’s Been Keeping: Her Older Sister Is Really Her Mom
Three months back, this 15-year-old girl discovered the secret her family’s been keeping from her: her 28-year-old sister is really her mom.
Her grandma has been the one raising her, but she always believed that her grandma was her biological mom.
Her sister then offered to allow her to move in with her, as she brought up re-adopting her and resuming custody.
“Fortunately, that wouldn’t happen until later next year, so I still have a reasonable amount of time to really consider my options and make my decision,” she explained.
“The issue is that she’s in her 3rd year of orthopedic surgery residency and works roughly 60-75 hours a week. I care about her a lot, and we’ve always had a close relationship—talking a few times a week for over an hour each time.”
“But I’m worried she won’t have the time or emotional energy to give me the kind of support I need, especially with her demanding schedule.”
Now, the relationship that she has with her grandma is complex, as her grandma is manipulative and stern and enjoys micromanaging her.
Her grandma additionally can be emotionally abusive on occasion. Her grandma likes to be the victim and gaslight her if she attempts to talk about their family.
She’s growing tired of her grandma dodging the questions that she has while always making it appear that she’s the one who got the short end of the stick.
Syda Productions – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person – pictured above a teen girl smiles
While she’s known no other parent than her grandma, she’s not so happy living with her. Her grandma and mom don’t get along, and her grandma kicked her mom out when she turned 18. Her mom understandably resents her grandma.
“On top of that, my grandmother lied to me for my whole life and made me believe my real mom was my “sister.” That betrayal has really messed with my trust in her,” she added.
“So now I’m really conflicted. I love my grandmother, but I feel like I’m stuck in a toxic situation. Moving in with my mom would be a huge change, and I’m not sure if it would be the best decision for me.”
Her mom has her own baggage to deal with, and she’s doubtful that her mom is up to the task of actually being her mom since her work-life balance isn’t there.
She’s unsure what she should do, as she’s afraid of making a mistake. What advice do you have for her?
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