She Wants To Divorce Her Husband Since He Won’t Do Anything For Their Kid
It’s reasonable to expect your partner to pitch in when you have a child, but how would you feel if they refused to help out?
This 29-year-old woman has been with her 30-year-old husband for a decade, and they have a three-year-old daughter together.
Following the birth of their daughter, she suffered from severe PPD, so she had to go from working full-time in an office to part-time.
She was able to relieve her symptoms after that, and she’s held her part-time position through January of this year.
“During this time, I was responsible for the household and our daughter. My husband’s only real responsibility was cooking dinner and the occasional breakfast,” she explained.
“I cleaned, I grocery shopped and meal planned, I remembered all the appointments and events, I also did all of the child rearing with the exception of the two days I worked in the office (I had one day from home, but my daughter was at home with me).”
“I became more overwhelmed than I was before. I asked for help constantly, and my husband would follow through for about two weeks before telling me that he was too tired from working full time (~40 hrs).”
She let her husband know that she wanted to resume working full-time, and when that happened, she expected him to split up the chores with her.
Her husband refused, but she found a job regardless. She then put her daughter in daycare for the days she had to work remotely, and was thrilled to make more money even with the added expense.
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Back then, she and her husband desperately needed the extra money, as their home sustained damage in a hurricane and they didn’t have insurance to cover it, so they had to pay out of pocket.
After she told her husband about her full-time job, he freaked out. He said there was no way he would help her beyond cooking.
“He has remained steadfast in his decision to not help. I recently asked again if he could at least help by brushing her teeth in the morning,” she continued.
“He said no. I said we are supposed to be a team, and I would really appreciate his help. He snapped that this is what I wanted, I did this to myself, and he would not be helping beyond his fair share. I said fine, I’ll figure it out myself.”
“I’ve since been contemplating divorce. If the only responsibility I need to pick up is cooking, then what help do I need from him?”
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