I can’t understand people who adopt a child, only to act like they’re disposable when they finally have a biological kid of their own. You have to be a special kind of monster to treat two children in completely separate ways, don’t you?
Back when this 17-year-old guy was just a baby, his parents adopted him. His mom and dad were in their late 30s at the time and had struggled for years to have kids of their own.
After over a decade of trying for a baby, they sought to adopt a child, and his birth mom and dad picked out his parents. His parents were there in the delivery room, and his adoptive mom held his biological mom’s hand as he was delivered.
From there, he was brought home by his parents, and that was it. Three years later, his adoptive mom got pregnant with his sister.
“I don’t know if [they] treated me [differently] after that or if they were always a little less in love with me than some adopted kids get. But I always felt that my sister was the clear favorite and their real child,” he explained.
“My parents adore her. They spoil her. She got all the cute nicknames like little sweetheart, baby star, to list a couple of them. They were also really obsessed with how much she looked like a perfect mix of the two of them. Mom’s eye color and nose, dad’s hair color, and round face, and other features.”
“A few of my cousins used to rub it in real good that my parents had their real kid now, and if they could send me back, they would. My family knew [they] said it, but nobody ever seemed to care very much.”
His sister got showered with smooches and cuddles, while he didn’t get that kind of attention. She got spoiled to no end, while he didn’t.
While he was entirely ignored and got presents, they spent a whole lot less on him and purchased fewer presents. He thought it could have to do with the fact that he’s a boy, but he did let his parents know that he was feeling left out. They didn’t do anything about it.
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His sister picked up on this and proceeded to make fun of that. She called him a fake brother and said she wished she had a real one instead. She called their cousins her true family members, but not him.
Then, last year, he overheard his parents telling his aunt about how they had an enormous amount of money saved for his sister to use for her college tuition.
“They never mentioned having one for me, which stung, and I thought about it a lot. I got asked in school if I had money or if I would get help from my parents for college, and I never knew what to say,” he added.
“I told them I didn’t think so, and then financial aid was discussed. I reached out to my birth parents a few months ago, too (my parents gave me their names and info they had), and they don’t want a relationship with me.”
“My parents said they expected as much but figured it wasn’t their place to say. They didn’t comfort me or anything, and my sister said I had four parents who didn’t want me, so I must be broken.”
Two weeks back, his parents asked his school guidance counselor to discuss college details with him, as they were too busy to help at all.
Well, he did ask his parents about whether or not they had saved any money for him to use on his college tuition, and they demanded to know how he knew his sister had one.
He responded by wanting to know why they even made a fund for his sister but not for him, knowing he would be graduating three years ahead of her.
His parents said it wasn’t any of his business and refused to tell him why they are, yet again, giving his sister preferential treatment.
“It made me feel like [garbage], and since that day, there’s a whole lot of tension in the house, and my sister is rubbing it in that she gets a college fund and I don’t,” he continued.
“My parents never said either way, but not saying anything is basically an answer, right?”
I find it so weird that his parents and acting like it’s not appropriate for him to know if they’re going to help him out financially to attend college, because that is his business. He needs to know if he needs to fund it all alone!
It’s gross that they treat his sister like gold and him like trash, and regardless of whether he gets any help, he needs to move out of that house ASAP and find people who will love and support him, because his family is atrocious.
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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