Her Boyfriend Made Her Pay For Her Own Birthday Dinner And Claimed He Couldn’t Afford To Buy Her A Gift, But Then Purchased Himself A New Game In Front Of Her On Their Drive Home
This 22-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, who is 25, for nearly three years now. But she is currently in college while her boyfriend works back in their hometown. So, their relationship has been long distance.
This meant that over spring break last week, she decided to visit home. It also happened to be her birthday over break, too, so it worked out.
According to her, though, her boyfriend actually “took her out” to dinner before her actual birthday and said it was going to be her birthday gift.
But after they showed up at a pretty expensive restaurant, she still wound up paying for her half– meaning that his gift to her was just some quality time and paying for his own food.
Honestly, though, she admitted to being satisfied with that at the time.
“That was his birthday gift to me, which he thought was a great gift because he rarely wants to go on dates with me, and when we do go, I pay for everything,” she explained.
“But I’ll admit I had a great time, and we had a great night, and I’m so happy we got to spend time together.”
Now, she did reveal why her boyfriend never really pays for anything. Apparently, he does not make enough money at his job and has been financially struggling for years– paying off bills while simply trying to afford gas.
In the process, she was also forced to help him out a lot despite being a college student who is already struggling, too.
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She claimed that the problem is not just her boyfriend’s low paycheck, though. Instead, she pointed out how her boyfriend is just not that great at saving money.
When he was a kid, he reportedly grew up living a lavish lifestyle and became accustomed to spending money on things he did not need instead of putting funds into savings.
So, she has tried to give her boyfriend budgeting tips over the years. For instance, telling him not to buy $100-worth of groceries if he is going to order takeout every week because then, all of the food in his fridge will go to waste.
“But he refuses to accept [my tips] because “I am an adult, I know how to take care of myself.’ So I’ve been just keeping my mouth shut,” she said.
Weeks ago, though, her boyfriend told her that he could not afford to do anything special for her birthday because he wasn’t going to have enough money to pay his bills. And at the time, she completely understood that.
She told her boyfriend it was completely fine and that she understood. Plus, she claimed that all she wanted was to just spend some time together.
She had no clue why her boyfriend wound up picking an expensive restaurant that he definitely could not afford for their dinner date, though.
Then, once her own family’s birthday celebration came around, she was even more shell-shocked.
Apparently, her family decided to go out for a celebratory dinner on the actual day of her birthday. So, her boyfriend attended the dinner with her as well.
Once the meal wrapped up, though, everyone was heading back to her family’s house when her boyfriend wanted to stop at the store on the way. And to her total surprise, he only stopped because he wanted to buy a game for himself!
“I already knew he couldn’t afford to give me a birthday gift because he needed to save money, but somehow, he was able to buy a game for himself in front of me on my birthday but couldn’t get me a $5 candle or even write me a card?” she asked.
Plus, her entire family was back at her house waiting for her and her boyfriend, and they wanted to know what had been taking them so long.
And since she was feeling pretty embarrassed about the idea of telling everyone her boyfriend bought himself a game yet didn’t even buy her a gift, she decided to buy herself a $10 gift card.
Then, she forced her boyfriend to sign the gift card. That way, just in case her family asked, she would have something to show them.
She also claimed that while her boyfriend was buying his game, she tried to question him– bringing up how he had bills to pay and needed to save money.
She even asked him point blank if he really thought buying the game was the best idea.
Her boyfriend actually just got defensive, though, and accused her of trying to “mother him.” Then, he had the nerve to call her ungrateful!
“You’re so ungrateful for everything I do for you. I guess I’m not allowed to treat myself. Sorry you think I’m a horrible boyfriend,” her boyfriend told her.
Anyway, on the drive back to her family’s house, she really did not want to start an argument on her own birthday. So, she just decided to let the whole thing go, and she has not mentioned the incident ever since.
But she has not been able to stop thinking about it. She honestly doesn’t know if she is just not understanding his financial situation.
“And not being appreciative that he did anything at all because I know he is super stressed, and I don’t want to put any extra pressure on him or be too needy,” she admitted.
At the same time, though, the entire situation also made her feel really upset.
So now, she has been left wondering whether she should bring up the birthday incident to her boyfriend again or just leave it alone for good.
Can you believe her boyfriend couldn’t even give her a handmade card or trinket from the dollar store, yet he made her pay for her own dinner and bought himself a new game? Is she too understanding of his financial excuses? Is it fair that she felt so embarrassed she had to buy herself a birthday gift card to show her family? Do you think she needs to end this relationship?
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