There are some truths floating around out there that I firmly believe should not be spoken out loud. You know, like anything that could hurt your partner’s feelings for no reason.
This isn’t a matter of hiding something or being secretive; it’s just that voicing certain things does nothing but bruise the person we love.
It’s the kind of unnecessary honesty that offers no comfort or kindness. And that’s exactly what she’s dealing with after her boyfriend made a startling confession to her one day.
This 31-year-old woman and her 30-year-old boyfriend were chatting about a video they had come across where a girl’s boyfriend admitted to her that she is actually not the most attractive person he has ever slept with.
This guy went on to say a man should never date the hottest girl he can find, because they’re all absolutely insane, which isn’t a great mix.
“I thought we were on the same page of understanding why this guy in the video was digging himself into a hole, but then my boyfriend started talking about the hottest girl he’s been with in the context of she was hot, but not a good person overall,” she explained.
“It really threw me, because I didn’t expect him to say that I wasn’t the hottest person he’s been with (I didn’t ask). If you asked me, I would think who I am with now is the hottest person I’ve been with.”
“I also specifically don’t ask these questions for this reason. I feel like it can’t be unsaid, and he feels that I’m immature for reacting to it.”
Her boyfriend quickly attempted to backtrack by telling her that she’s the most stunning woman in his eyes and he’s making a decision to be with her and nobody else.
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But his words were not reassuring, because he already told her that she’s not the hottest girl he’s ever been with, and there’s no bouncing back from that jarring dose of honesty!
She’s left wondering how you would feel if your partner confessed to you that they had been with hotter people than you.
As I said, some feelings shouldn’t be voiced, and her boyfriend royally messed up in telling her that she’s not the best-looking girl he’s scored with.
I think this warrants dumping her boyfriend, because his words are going to live rent-free in her head forever, and she’s going to get stuck constantly wondering about this hotter girl.
This was just so painful and disrespectful of her boyfriend to do to her.
What’s your opinion on this? Do you think she has a right to feel hurt?
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