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She understands her boyfriend can spend his money however he likes and that every family has its own set of dynamics, but telling herself this doesn’t make her feel better about the situation.
She always is left feeling like she’s not special or that her boyfriend doesn’t value her at all. She has brought up these issues to her boyfriend before, but he won’t change his gift-giving.
Her boyfriend has mentioned that he does not want her to feel the way that she does, but how can that change when he won’t?
“He’s taken one small action by trying to get me items in categories that he’s previously gotten them when my occasions come around, but that feels transactional,” she said. “It’s like gifting them gives him joy, but not me.”
“I’ve tried suggesting ideas that wouldn’t involve him “restricting” his spending on them. But “he’s not that type of guy to go out and get his girlfriend x just because he got his sister y.”
She has no idea what to do and how to move forward.
How would you handle this?
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