Her Ex Never Bothers To Show Up For Their Son’s Surgeries But Constantly Harasses Her For Updates, So She Told Her Ex To Go To The Hospital And Talk To The Doctors Himself
This twenty-five-year-old woman and her ex, who is twenty-eight, currently have a two-year-old son together.
But she is basically raising her son all by herself. She works two jobs, is currently attending college online, and has her son twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Her ex also provides no financial assistance whatsoever.
And unfortunately, since her son was born with a birth defect, he had to undergo surgery last year.
He ended up staying in the hospital for about a week and also had to recover for a month at home. And the entire time she was with her son in the hospital, her ex would not stop blowing up her phone and getting angry at her.
“I would get constant calls and texts 24/7 from my ex asking for updates, which is a normal thing to ask,” she explained.
“However, every time I would tell him, his response always led to yelling at me for not ‘telling him sooner,’ even if whatever it was had just happened.”
Apparently, her ex believed that the second she heard about even the slightest change in her son’s medical state, she was supposed to call him immediately.
Honestly, though, she was already depressed and overwhelmed with enough while trying to be by her son’s side.
Plus, it’s not like she went days without updating her ex on her son’s medical status. In fact, she made sure to call him no longer than a day after she learned of any new information.
famveldman – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
Still, though, even just talking to her ex on the phone was utterly exhausting.
And what upset her the most was that her ex never even attempted to go to the hospital or see her son after he was released once.
Anyway, it has now been a year since her son’s first surgery. And now, due to the birth defect, her son will soon be undergoing another surgery with the same estimated recovery time.
What’s also the same is that her ex has continued his overbearing yet simultaneously absent behavior, and it is seriously pissing her off.
“Not once did my ex ever go to any doctor’s appointments, testing, etc., but would consistently berate me if I did not call him immediately to tell him every detail,” she said.
But, yesterday, after she went to pick up her son from his grandmother’s– her ex’s mother’s– house, she ran into her ex in person. So, she took that opportunity to remind her ex that their son’s surgery was quickly approaching.
Rather than sharing his support or saying he would be there, though, her ex claimed that she “better make sure to constantly call him.” And after hearing that, she was shocked and totally done taking her ex’s attitude.
So, she actually cut him off mid-sentence, told him no, and explained how if her ex wanted to know what was going on with their son, he could show up at the hospital and talk to the doctors himself.
Her ex did not take the constructive criticism well, though, and actually freaked out on her. She was not going to stand being yelled at by him, though, so she picked up her son and just went home.
Well, ever since that argument, she has been fielding countless messages from her ex– who is claiming that she is a jerk and trying to deny him access to his child.
“But I am just tired of being the messenger,” she vented.
Still, even though she feels like her ex does not deserve any updates after never showing up for their son, she has been left wondering if refusing to give her ex any updates following this second surgery was the wrong thing to do.
Can you understand why she does not want to be glued to her phone while trying to support her son’s recovery? Why do you think her ex wants so many updates if he never bothers to show up? If you had been in her shoes, would you have refused to give any updates, too? If not, how would you handle this situation?
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