Her Sister Didn’t Ask Her To Be A Bridesmaid Because She Apparently Did Not Fit The “Look” Of The Wedding, So When Her Sister’s Own Maid Of Honor Dropped The Ball With Wedding Planning, And Her Sister Asked Her To Take Over, She Refused
This young woman and her sister are honestly not the best of friends. However, according to her, they have a pretty good relationship.
In fact, she believed they were close enough that when her sister got engaged, she would either be asked to be the maid of honor or at least to be a bridesmaid in the wedding.
Well, neither of those things happened. Despite having a bridal party of ten, her sister did not ask her to play any role in the event whatsoever. And even though that hurt her deep down, she just decided not to say anything.
“I totally get that it’s my sister’s wedding and that I am not entitled to be in her wedding party, and I eventually got over it,” she recalled.
Then, shortly after her sister’s engagement announcement, her best friend also got engaged. And to her surprise, she was asked to be her best friend’s maid of honor– which she was over the moon about.
She totally dove into the whole maid of honor role, and the entire process became really fun for both her and her friend.
“I’ve already been able to plan and execute a lot that has both made the experience fun for my friend and also a lot less stressful,” she explained.
More recently, though, her sister’s wedding planning took a turn for the worst. In fact, she claims that her sister’s maid of honor totally dropped the ball with the responsibilities.
According to her, her sister’s maid of honor has put zero effort into helping her sister with the wedding.
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More specifically, her sister’s maid of honor has not planned one thing, never responds to any of her sister’s texts, and just generally seems disinterested in all of the responsibilities.
And in the wake of her sister’s floundering wedding, none of her sister’s other bridesmaids have stepped up to the plate to help out. Apparently, they all claim to have different reasons and excuses why they cannot spend more time on her sister’s wedding.
So, her sister ended up approaching her recently and asking if she would do literally everything– including planning the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and the actual wedding itself.
Apparently, her sister wants her to provide the same experience that she gave to her friend. Honestly, though, she was offended– and rightfully so.
“My sister only asked me after she saw what a great job I did for someone else,” she vented.
Regardless, though, she recognized that they were sisters and decided to lend a hand. Still, she told her sister that she would help under one condition– if she was made a bridesmaid.
After all, she believed that was the least her sister could do in order to make her feel less like an “errand girl” and more like a true part of the wedding.
But to her total shock, her sister actually refused to make her a part of the wedding. First, her sister claimed that her joining the bridal party would throw off the “numbers.”
Then, her sister revealed that she actually just did not have “the look” her sister was trying to accomplish for the event– which, understandably, seriously offended her.
“Like, at this point, I’m just pissed,” she admitted.
And after learning that, she told her sister it was fine and that she did not have to be a part of the wedding.
However, if her sister wanted her to plan the entire thing, she said she would need to be hired and compensated as a wedding planner.
I mean, taking responsibility for planning everything is a massive time commitment and is also super stressful. So, she did not want to be doing it for free– which is fair.
Well, apparently, her sister did not think so at all. Instead, her sister ended up crying to their mother and father about the whole ordeal.
So, both of her parents have since accused her of being a jerk and believe that she should just do the planning as a sister. They are also claiming that by refusing to do so, she is ruining her sister’s day and making the wedding all about herself.
And now, all of these accusations have pushed her to doubt herself. At first, she thought her sister was being ridiculous by expecting her to do all of this work after one, basically insulting her appearance, and two, not wanting her to play any role in the wedding.
But, ever since hearing her parent’s perspective, she has been left wondering if refusing to help plan her sister’s wedding makes her a jerky sibling.
Can you believe that her sister valued “the look” of the wedding over having her as a bridesmaid in the event? Do you think it is fair to expect someone to plan your wedding if they are not involved in the bridal party? Does it matter if they are your sister or not? If you had been in her shoes, would you have also refused to plan the wedding without pay?
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