She Can’t Help But Feel Like It’s All Her Fault That Her Teen Son Is Pretty Short And Beginning To Resent His Height
A 45-year-old woman has a teen son who is now 15, and she says that her dream all along has been getting to be a mom.
Her son not only fulfilled that dream for her; he truly is the child of her dreams, and he’s intelligent and quite good looking too.
He has great manners, and he takes his schoolwork seriously. Overall, he’s just a really nice kid, and it’s easy to see why she’s proud to be his mom.
“He’s never caused me trouble or been ungrateful,” she explained. “But it turns out he’s started getting very angry and sad these last years because of his late, not-coming growth spurt. He’s 5’1”/155cm, and he doesn’t even hide how much he hates it all along.”
“I tried my best to console him and to make him a bit less bitter and way more hopeful and positive, but I also know, from an old appointment with a pediatrician, that he won’t grow taller than 5’4”/163 cm, and I guess he’s actually done growing already by now.”
“I mean, I feel him because I also feel frustrated with how short he is. I’ve never seen my son excelling in sports or starting dating and asking me for advice with girls. Teenagers his age are already doing that, and he got stuck behind.”
Her son isn’t the only one that is beginning to resent his height; his dad is resentful of it as well.
Although she is divorced from her son’s dad, she knows how important it was to her son’s dad to have a child who he could raise to be a little athlete.
Her son’s dad is a high school football star back in the town where he’s from, and he hoped to be able to have a son that excelled in sports too.
Galyna Andrushko – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
He wanted a son who would grow up to be just like him, and the son that they have couldn’t really be more different from that vision her ex had.
“I also feel very guilty over this because I come from a short ethnicity, and I’m 4’11”/150 cm myself. Is all of this my fault?” she wondered.
“Every time I ask for advice from my sister or paid professionals on how to make my son happier and more fulfilled, it turns into an awkward session for everyone involved because of the embarrassing factor.”
“It’s like people don’t want to admit “yeah, it really sucks” but can’t circumvent their feelings about it, which ends with a plethora of condescending platitudes.”
And when the advice she receives boils down to people telling her that her son should just focus on liking who he is, she can’t help but feel resentful of their words.
Her son does not need to do anything in her eyes to improve who he is, as he already is a wonderful human being who just is struggling with his height.
“How am I supposed to move on with this issue?” she asked.
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