His Fiancée Took Her Daughters Out To Eat One Night And Excluded His Daughter From Going With Them, But His Fiancée Doesn’t See How It Was Hurtful
This guy is currently engaged to his fiancée, and they have been with one another for close to 4 years now.
His fiancée has 2 daughters from a previous relationship, and her girls are 12 and 15. His fiancée has a super bizarre custody agreement with her ex where she gets her daughters only for 6 months out of the year.
So from January through June, his fiancée has her kids, and then from June on, her kids go to her ex’s place.
Last fall, his fiancée moved into his house, which he shares with his 10-year-old daughter named Charlie.
“For the record, up until recently, she has been an amazing mother figure to Charlie,” he explained.
“Our first issue was back in November as we discussed bedroom arrangements. She felt her eldest should have a room of her own while living here 6 months out of the year.”
“That would cause Charlie to bunk with her youngest. I, however, did not allow it because that would encroach Charlie and likely cause her to feel alienated in her own home.”
One weekend ago, they had a pretty big argument again surrounding their girls. That weekend, he was asked to work a 12-hour long shift, and he agreed.
When he came home from work that night, he found Charlie upset because his fiancée had taken her daughters out somewhere to eat and excluded Charlie.
kite_rin – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Charlie then mentioned that when his fiancée and her girls got home, they passed her some takeout that wasn’t even warm.
He then approached his fiancée to question her about what had happened, and she said that she had taken her girls to dinner and then to mini golf.
They left Charlie’s food in the car while they golfed, which explained why Charlie’s food was cold by the time they brought it home.
So, while there was a valid explanation for why Charlie’s food was cold, there was no valid explanation for why Charlie wasn’t invited to come along with all of them.
“She kept deflecting to the food, saying she didn’t expect her to eat it cold; she could have warned it up herself,” he said.
“I kept insisting it was extremely rude to exclude Charlie from the outing. She came back with…”But I brought her food home.” She then asked, “Why is it ok for you to go out with just Charlie?” That’s different; in the last 30 days her kids have been here, Charlie and I have only gone grocery shopping or, on one occasion, took her cat to the vet. That can’t even be compared to what she did.”
“We didn’t come to any sort of an agreement. Friday, she was taking her girls to the dentist. On the way out, she made the snarky comment, “I hope this doesn’t offend Charlie too.”
Luckily, Charlie was not in earshot and didn’t hear that comment, but he was furious that his fiancée said that.
He and his fiancée both said sorry to one another later that day before his fiancée decided to start their fight up again over her excluding Charlie from dinner and mini golf.
His fiancée accused him of being in the wrong before insisting that she needed “alone” time with her girls because she spends half of the year not getting to spend time with them.
He completely gets her wanting to spend some time alone with her daughters, but he wished she could plan alone time with her girls while he also plans something for him and Charlie to do.
His fiancée then brought up the argument over the bedrooms for their girls before stating that her children really need to be alone with her.
“She made the pointless remark that her kids have no problem with her doing things with Charlie while they’re living with their father,” he continued.
“She further argued that there will be many times when Charlie will be excluded because of the age gap between her and the eldest.”
“I told her if she expects things to work out, she would need to treat Charlie as one of her daughters. She said I was entirely missing her point because I don’t know what it’s like having shared custody.”
He’s left wondering who is right in this argument. Do you think he is?
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