Emily Chan
Maybe they told you all about the abuse they endured during childhood or a traumatic experience with an ex.
According to Daniella, this is their way of quickly creating a bond with you, of getting closer to you.
The second red flag is if they’re constantly raving about how you are their “bestie” or “soul sister,” even though you don’t know each other particularly well.
Daniella talks about how this shower of recognition may make you feel super close and connected, but it’s really just a form of flattery used to make you feel special and to draw you in.
“If you stop to think about it, they don’t know that much about you. They might not even know your last name,” says Daniella.
“You might’ve just met them, but they’re calling you their BFF.”
The third red flag is if they ghost you for a long time for no apparent reason. This could last for weeks, months, or even years.
So, of course, you would assume that the relationship is over. But then, out of the blue, you might receive a call or a text from them, acting like nothing happened. However, for you, it’s as if they came back from the dead.
“They have no accountability, no apology, nothing. They don’t even acknowledge the fact that they disappeared for x amount of time,” says Daniella.
Daniella explains that the thought process of a narcissist is to “put you on a shelf,” essentially forgetting all about you until they need or want to reach out to you again for whatever reason.
Finally, the last red flag that you should be keeping an eye out for is if they talk to you about their friends that you’ve never met.
