Her Boyfriend Won’t Even Begin To Discuss Getting Married Until She Loses Enough Weight
This 23-year-old girl has a boyfriend who is 2 years older than she is. Back when they began dating, she weighed 200 pounds.
Right now, she’s about 226, and at her heaviest weight, she was at 238. She’s very tall, 6 feet to be exact, and she has always struggled with a fear of putting on pounds.
When she did begin to weigh more, she honestly felt as if her “life was over.” During this past January to May, she put on 25 pounds.
“I was LOSING my mind,” she explained. “Plus, I didn’t have time to work out as I was driving 6 hours 2-3 times a week to my university while taking 18 credits.”
“When I finally graduated and was able to make it to doctors’ appointments, they found an apple-sized noncancerous tumor…(aka a fibroid).”
Even though she wasn’t eating very much, the scale was creeping up, and she found herself at the heaviest she has ever been.
As this was all happening, she began realizing that her boyfriend would grow silent when she brought up meeting his family or having her family meet his.
She knew things weren’t quite right, and that was why her boyfriend was getting quiet about taking the next step, but she didn’t know why he was being like that.
As the months wore on, she began to really ask him about why he was hesitating.
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“After months of prodding, he finally said it was because of my weight,” she said. “Specifically, what his family would say about how I look. I was devastated and cried every day for three weeks.”
“He expressed his concern for my health and assured me he still loves me and wants to marry me. After this conversation, I did meet his dad and a few of his siblings, so I think he did this to reassure me.”
She did recently undergo surgery to remove that fibroid, and she has since lost 14 pounds in just a couple of weeks.
She isn’t the same weight she was when she started dating her boyfriend, and her boyfriend has made it clear to her that she needs to get back to that number for their relationship to progress.
He doesn’t want to even discuss getting married until she does weigh less. She desperately wants the scale to read 200 pounds again, but she is crushed knowing her boyfriend isn’t as attracted to her right now.
“I just feel that he could have given me more grace knowing that I gained this weight due to a medical condition out of my control,” she continued.
“At the same time, I know you can’t control physical attraction, and I think it’s somewhat justified to want your partner how you met them. I have a tall, athletic build, but I’ve gained most of the weight in my midsection and face.”
“My question: is it wrong for him to want me to lose weight before we start planning to get married? Have any of you experienced this, and how did you handle it?”
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