He’s Refusing To Let His Girlfriend Move In With Him Because They’re Not Married Yet
This 29-year-old guy has been dating his girlfriend, who is also 29, for one year. Not long before they met, he also bought a nice house.
It has four bedrooms and three bathrooms and is located in a good neighborhood. So, he plans to raise a family in the home one day.
His girlfriend, on the other hand, currently rents an apartment and has a roommate.
“Her finances are actually pretty solid. No major debts, but she would never get qualified for a mortgage on her income,” he said.
But recently, she asked him when he was going to allow her to move in.
He was taken aback by the question and asked his girlfriend what she meant. Afterward, she pointed out how they had been dating for a year already.
However, he has a different perspective on the timeline for when it’s appropriate for her to move in. More specifically, he wants to wait until he gets married to someone to let them move into his home.
“She’s known since the beginning of the relationship that I want two years to get to know someone before marriage, so that’s a minimum of one year away,” he explained.
His response just made his girlfriend upset, though, and she pointed out how other couples– including some of their friends– already live together, and everything is fine.
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Still, he just is not comfortable allowing a romantic partner to live with him until they tie the knot– because, in his eyes, they are just dating.
“And marriage is when you go all in together, and I’d be happy to do that once we’re actually married,” he reasoned.
It’s also important to note that he was once married before during his early twenties. But, his ex-wife cheated on him very early on, which is why he wants to make sure that he gets it right the next time he decides to tie the knot.
So, he believes that two years is an extremely reasonable timeline. He also made it clear that he still views his girlfriend as wife material.
“I’m not just stringing her along,” he vented.
Still, his girlfriend being upset has made him wonder whether refusing to let her move in with him right now makes him a real jerk.
Can you understand why he thinks it’s too soon to move in together? At the same time, do you think couples should wait to move in together before they get married, or is it better to try living with someone before you say, “I do?” How should he handle this situation?
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