She Kept Turning Down Hangouts With Her Friend Group Because Certain Moms Always Brought Their Kids, And Her Friends Finally Caught On To Her Pattern
This woman has a friend group that consists of seven other women, and she knows them all from college. But she is one of the only women in her group who does not have children.
Two of her friends are currently pregnant with their first kids; meanwhile, three of her other friends already have children.
So, they all rarely meet up as a group– despite living in the same city. In fact, she has only seen all of them about twice over the past year.
Whenever someone does ask to hang out, they all try to find a date when they are all free. But, usually, one of the moms will always ask if they can bring their kids along.
Then, the second mom will always say yes before anyone else has a chance to answer. It’s only the third mom who usually would prefer to have a child-free evening.
According to her, all three of the current mothers do have husbands who can watch their kids at home. The moms also have involved parents who would be able to watch the children for one night.
Yet, she claimed that her friends are “somehow” never able to find anyone to babysit. That’s why she’s actually stopped responding in the group chat until she knows the plan.
“I’ve stopped answering until they’ve set a time and place, someone has asked about kids, and I say I can’t make it,” she revealed.
“I hang out with them one-on-one or in smaller groups instead.”
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However, just a few days ago, she and her friends all finally found a way to meet up. No one ever asked to bring their kids in the group chat, so she thought she was in the clear and agreed to go.
The plan was to have a barbecue and a wine night with just the girls.
Well, lo and behold, one of the moms ultimately showed up with their 8-year-old kid. Honestly, she was really frustrated.
She didn’t really try to hide her annoyance, either, and one of her friends even asked why she seemed off.
Still, she just shrugged off her friend and stayed at the barbecue for about 30 minutes. Then, she excused herself and actually left the gathering– telling her friends she didn’t feel well.
“In those 30 minutes, we hadn’t had any ‘adult talk.’ We were just entertaining the kid,” she reasoned.
“I would rather go home than do this for another three to four hours.”
But, after she left, her friends caught on to her pattern. That’s why she received text messages from most of the women in her friend group.
Some of them accused her of being a jerk; meanwhile, others just claimed that they were annoyed she left.
Finally, the third mom did understand her perspective and actually asked to meet up another day to have a “proper wine night.”
Anyway, she swears that she doesn’t hate kids whatsoever.
“I just work with them every day, and I don’t want to spend my time off relaxing with friends, having to entertain other peoples’ kids again,” she vented.
Still, with most of her friend group upset with her, she’s been left wondering whether always saying no to hangouts that include their children really makes her a jerk or not.
Can you understand why she doesn’t always want to hang out with her friends’ kids? Would you expect children to be at a wine night with friends from college, either? Even so, should she be more upfront about her expectations with her friends?
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