Her Boyfriend Threatened To Break Up After She Got Upset That He Planned To Spend The Night At A Female Friend’s House
This 27-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, who is 30, for about eight months. But, they only recently encountered their very first fight.
It all began when her boyfriend wanted to stay overnight at one of his female friend’s homes as opposed to getting a hotel room. And understandably, she was uncomfortable with that since it felt a bit inappropriate.
Her boyfriend didn’t really understand her perspective, though, and compared the situation to her staying the night with her guy best friend.
“But my boyfriend ignored that [my friend] is married and gay,” she explained.
“So I said this is a bit different, seeing as his friend is single, and I wouldn’t ever stay with a male friend who was straight and single, especially if I was in a relationship.”
Well, her boyfriend didn’t get her point and just wound up escalating their argument. He even went so far as to say that if she was going to act “jealous,” then he would just walk away from their relationship right now.
She was fine with that, too, and actually showed her boyfriend the door! But then, he began to backtrack.
First, he got all defensive and asked, “So, that’s it then?” She didn’t back down, though, and told her boyfriend that if that was what he wanted, then yes.
Afterward, her boyfriend made a remark– accusing her of “throwing away a good thing.” However, she pointed out how her boyfriend was the one who had made such a grand threat.
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“And if he didn’t want to break up, he shouldn’t threaten that,” she reasoned.
That’s why she did make a jab at her boyfriend, claiming that if he didn’t have the gall to stand behind something, then don’t threaten it.
Still, her boyfriend ignored that and just asked if she would even be upset if they broke up.
Now, for some context, she’s been through a ton of trauma– from childhood abuse to the death of her previous boyfriend. So, as someone who has basically “seen it all,” she told her boyfriend that yes, she would be upset, but she would definitely survive.
“I know I can survive pretty much anything, especially him,” she admitted.
“And I wasn’t going to tolerate any [mess] around behavior, and I proceeded to kick him out.”
Ever since then, her boyfriend hasn’t stopped blowing up her phone, either. He’s been begging her to rethink their relationship and the overnight situation.
And now, in the wake of their argument, she’s not too sure how to proceed.
On the one hand, she realizes that her boyfriend’s female friend is truly just a friend.
But, on the other hand, she still thinks the idea of staying at her home was inappropriate on her boyfriend’s part.
“I plan on discussing this with my therapist,” she vented.
However, in the meantime, she’s been left wondering if getting upset that her boyfriend planned to spend the night at another woman’s house and claiming that she would survive him leaving their relationship really were jerky things to do.
How would you feel if your boyfriend wanted to sleep over at a single female friend’s house? Aside from that, what do you think about her boyfriend’s threat to leave her? Do you agree that people shouldn’t make threats if they aren’t willing to back them up? How should she proceed in this situation?
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