Her Husband Got Hurt In Three Motorcycle Accidents, So She Told Him That If He Has Another One, She Won’t Be There To Support Him
Three years ago, this woman’s husband, 32, owned a motorcycle even though they couldn’t comfortably afford it.
In 2021, her husband was in a horrible motorcycle accident in which he hit a man who had been distracted during a fight with his wife, and the man unexpectedly drove his motorcycle right in front of him on the road before he could stop.
When her husband was in this accident, he suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury, which totally altered his personality.
Understandably, this was a difficult time for both of them, and it was also tough for her to cope with because she was seven months pregnant with their daughter when her husband got into his accident.
Her husband’s motorcycle was returned to him; he took it in for repairs, and after that, he went to a motorcycle club not long after their baby girl had been born.
In her view, he was gone way too much.
It was crucial for her husband to get eight hours of sleep because of the brain injury he suffered, so this meant that she was the one who was up late at night taking care of the baby. Unfortunately, her husband didn’t assist with much of the parenting at first, but as time went on, he started pitching in more often.
Things felt like they went back to normal, and her husband started riding his motorcycle again.
Later, her husband hit another motorcycle once again, incurring $1,200 in damages, and he had to pay part of this with money that they’d intended to use to remodel their bathroom.
Jacob Lund – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Then, five months ago, her husband was in yet another motorcycle accident, and he broke several bones in his legs.
Luckily, he is nearly fully recovered and has returned to work.
“Two days ago, he ‘asked’ me if he is allowed to go back on a motorcycle for a whole weekend away with the boys. Finances aren’t great, but it’s mainly paid for,” she said.
Prior to joining the motorcycle club, her husband never discussed the matter with her or asked if she was comfortable with it. He just joined the club without talking to her about it after he’d purchased his motorcycle.
After his accidents, she was devastated. It was obviously horrible to see her husband in that state when she and their daughter went to visit him in the hospital, and her husband has so many people who love him and want to see him recover from his injuries.
“I had hard thoughts and feelings that if he gets another bike and crashes again, becomes disabled or broken like this, I cannot do it again. I cannot go through the emotion and the hurt again. He chooses to be dangerous, and that’s on him. I cannot be by his side. It’s hard. I made vows through thick and thin, but I can’t emotionally go through it again. He has a family to think about now,” she explained.
Over the past several months, things have improved with their marriage.
However, she is still concerned about her husband’s finances and how he goes to the motorcycle club every Friday night to drink beer and hang out with his friends.
When he first started doing this, it made her nervous, but now she feels like she’s accepted that this is who her husband is, and this is how he wants to spend his time.
The motorcycle trip that her husband wanted to take was approaching, and her husband wanted her to give him permission to borrow a motorcycle to ride for the weekend.
“All of the old feelings and thoughts came back, and we argued. He couldn’t accept my no, and I told him I would not be by his side if he broke himself on a motorbike again. I told him it may build resentment, and it might tear us apart in the long term,” she shared.
Even though she wishes they could go to marriage counseling, they can’t afford to pay for it.
After their argument, she thinks they may be separating.
While she’s not positive that this is what will happen, she has made her opinions clear on how uncomfortable and terrified she is about her husband continuing to ride a motorcycle.
She expressed to him that if he rides a motorcycle ever again, she would not support him through any future injuries.
In response, her husband was angry and said her views were ridiculous.
Now, she feels conflicted. She’s depressed but also feels a sigh of relief that she has voiced her feelings.
In addition, she believes that her daughter should be able to grow up with two parents who feel happy with where they are in life rather than one happy parent and one miserable one.
What advice would you give her?
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