She Offered To Sponsor Her Friend’s Honeymoon To Hawaii, But After Her Friend Mocked Her For Her Weight While Shopping For Bridesmaid Dresses, She Left In Tears And Refused To Pay For It Or Attend The Wedding Anymore
This woman has known her friend for nearly five years.
They’ve always had a pretty good friendship, but she doesn’t consider her friend someone she’s incredibly close with.
Not long ago, her friend got engaged to a man she’d been dating for eight years.
Now, they’re planning the wedding of her friend’s dreams, which happens to be very lavish and more than they can afford.
In order to make this wedding possible, her friend’s parents are footing the bill for the dress and venue, and her friend’s fiancé’s parents are paying for the food, decor, and any other wedding-related expenses.
Her friend and her fiancé have three children, so that has made it difficult for them to save money or feel comfortable financially.
“A couple of months ago, we went out for drinks, and all she could talk about was how she deserved her dream honeymoon but couldn’t afford it. I felt bad for her. I have been working as a registered nurse for quite a while, and my pay was good, and I had some money saved up as well. So, I decided to offer to sponsor her honeymoon in Hawaii, which she eagerly accepted and was grateful for,” she said.
Unfortunately, the good times were short-lived.
Later on, she and her friend went with other friends to go shopping for bridesmaids’ dresses.
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Her friend was adamant about her bridesmaids wearing lilac dresses, and the one that she was particularly interested in showed a lot of skin and wasn’t at all comfortable.
“It was uncomfortable, especially for someone like me, who doesn’t have a zero-figure and is on the busty side. When I expressed my discomfort, she made a cruel joke about my appearance, comparing me to a baby elephant and suggesting I lose weight,” she explained.
In response, she asked her friend if she could pick out a different lilac dress to wear, but her friend rejected the idea, doubling down on her claim that if she lost weight, the dress would fit better.
Sadly, she felt self-conscious in this particular dress because she didn’t think it flattered her stomach.
Plus, her bust was not secure in the dress, so she felt awkward when she tried it on.
As if she wasn’t insecure enough, people who she used to think were her friends laughed when they saw her in the dress and mocked how she looked.
“When I told the bride the dress wasn’t working for me, her response was the last straw. She told me that because of my body size, nothing ever worked for me, just like my past relationship with Tyler (my ex). This was a particularly sensitive topic for me, and I couldn’t hold back my emotions any longer. I left the place in tears and texted her that I was canceling her Hawaii trip and wouldn’t attend the wedding,” she shared.
Her friend was furious about this and relayed the story to their group of mutual friends.
Luckily, most of their friends took her side rather than her friend’s.
Several days after the incident, her friend sent her a message saying she was sorry, pleading with her to come to her wedding.
She didn’t give in and told her she was standing by her decision to no longer attend the wedding.
Then, her friend had the nerve to ask her if she could still pay for her honeymoon, reminding her that she made a promise to do so.
After that, her friend had her fiancé, sisters, and friends send her texts in an attempt to badger her into paying for the honeymoon.
This was too much for her to handle, so she messaged her friend and said that her friend’s problems with money and her children were her personal responsibility, not hers.
She continued, calling her friend “entitled” and arrogant, adding that her friend didn’t have the right to a friendship with her anymore.
Once she cooled down, she felt terrible for what she told her friend and wondered if she crossed the line.
Apparently, ever since she texted these things, her friend hasn’t been able to stop crying, and her friend has been ranting to their friend group, claiming that she destroyed her wedding.
Now, some of their friends have told her that she needs to lighten up when people make jokes at her expense, and they said she was being overdramatic.
What advice would you give her?
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