She’s Been Trying To Have A Baby For Years, And Her Mom Constantly Makes Comments About How She’ll Never Become A Mother
This 32-year-old woman and her husband, who is 38, have been trying to have a child for the past three years. But unfortunately, she just hasn’t been able to get pregnant yet.
That hasn’t stopped her mom from constantly butting in and asking when she’s going to give her mom a grandchild, though. So, she’s constantly forced to tell her mom that it will happen eventually.
Yet, her mom still never leaves the topic alone. Instead, her mom actually starts making comments, claiming to think that it will “never” happen to her!
“Saying, ‘I don’t know that you can even get pregnant,’ etc., and basically proceeding to tell us all the things that are just speculation on my mom’s part and borderline hurtful,” she revealed.
As you can imagine, these comments became extremely frustrating. But she pushed them aside, and just yesterday, she and her husband went to their first infertility appointment.
Understandably, they were both excited yet nervous all at once. And thankfully, the appointment went extremely well.
“We are feeling optimistic and hopeful!” she said.
However, that doesn’t mean she plans to include her mom in the process or even tell her mom that they are really trying to have a baby.
According to her, her mom is simply a toxic narcissist. Whenever she’s given the opportunity, her mom puts her down on a regular basis.
Izabela Magier – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“My mom always puts the blame on anyone and everything besides her, and no matter what the situation is, my mom never takes responsibility,” she explained.
She also claimed that her mom is a compulsive liar, which, in her mind, is the worst part. After all, her mom’s habit of lying makes it incredibly difficult for her to discern what is real and what is fake.
Due to all of these issues, she thought it would be best to keep her baby-having journey to herself.
“I don’t want my mom to twist our journey and make it about her and her wants,” she reasoned.
Yet, at the same time, she’s also unsure about keeping this from her mom. After all, she wishes that she would be able to share her emotions– like her fears and worries– with her own mother to get support.
Still, she admitted that she doesn’t even know if telling her mother once she is pregnant that she’s expecting a baby will be a good idea.
“At least not for a while afterward,” she vented.
And now, in the wake of her decision, she’s been left wondering if excluding her mom from her pregnancy journey is really the right decision or not.
Does it seem like her mom deserves to be included in the journey after how she’s been treated? Is keeping her journey to herself the best way to avoid unnecessary stress and drama? Still, can you understand why that’s upsetting to her? What would you do in her shoes?
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