She Needed To Go To The Emergency Room, But Her Boyfriend Didn’t Offer To Take Her
This 19-year-old woman and her boyfriend, 23, have been in a relationship for the last year. They have discussed getting engaged once they both are more financially stable.
Yesterday morning, she woke up and had a bit of back pain. She didn’t think much of it at the time and went to work as usual.
“I work a desk job, so I figured I would just use a heating pad at work,” she said.
As the day progressed, the pain worsened and became more severe. Once she got home after work, she was struggling to breathe and was crying because she was in so much pain.
Right after she sat down, a sharp pain shot from her spine through to her leg. Concerned, she called her boyfriend and let him know what was happening.
“I knew I needed to go to the ER. I was in far too much pain to drive and hinted this to him. He lives about 15 minutes away. I told how expensive the Uber was, and he just goes, ‘That sucks,'” she explained.
Because her boyfriend didn’t offer to drive her to the ER, she ended up taking an Uber.
In total, she spent $100 on transportation, so if her boyfriend had driven her to the ER, she could have saved a lot of money.
It turned out that she had a herniated disk. Once she arrived back home, she updated her boyfriend, and he never said sorry for not giving her a ride or at least driving to the ER to be with her.
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“I know I didn’t directly ask him to drive me or even go with me, but I feel like I shouldn’t have to,” she shared.
While she acknowledged that clear communication is crucial in relationships, she believes that her boyfriend should have understood that this was an emergency, so he should have, therefore, stepped up to drive her to the ER and been there to support her.
Later, she called her boyfriend to share her frustration.cDuring their conversation, he said that he thought it made more sense for her to take an Uber because since her pain was so severe, getting an Uber was probably quicker than him driving 15 minutes to get to her house.
She told him that she saw his perspective, but she added that from now on, she didn’t want him to make those kinds of choices for her.
Over the years, she has suffered from chronic illness, so she has PTSD from her horrible experiences with going to the ER and the doctor.
What advice would you give her?
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