He’s Discussing The Real Difference Between “Nice Guys” Who Turn Out To Be Phonies And Guys Who Are Genuinely Just Nice, With No Ulterior Motives
When you’re a woman trying to find the ‘perfect’ guy out in the dating world, you can often get tricked. Sometimes, you think you’ve found a really ‘nice’ guy, but then once you start to let your guard down, they turn out to be not so nice.
TikTok creator Dargo (@dargoyaki) has given his viewers a look into the whole ‘nice guy’ phenomenon and explained that there’s a difference between men claiming to be ‘nice guys’ and genuinely nice men.
“I hate nice guys,” says Dargo at the beginning of his video.
“Why? Because I was one for a very long time. Hear me out: there’s a difference between being a ‘nice guy’ and being an actual nice guy.”
Dargo explains that the phony nice guys are the ones who take the time to claim that they are nice guys, boasting about it in person or on a dating profile.
“They’re the ones that treat their crush and love interest like a princess, putting them up on a pedestal,” says Dargo.
“He thinks to himself, ‘Hey, eventually, if I show her enough affection and do all these nice things for her, one day, she’ll realize what a nice person I am, and she will fall in love with me.’ There’s a sense of entitlement that their kindness should be rewarded with the woman’s affection.”
Dargo is essentially saying that the phony nice guys are, deep down, only being nice because they want a reward. Then, when a woman rejects them or their acts of service, they get angry or insecure because they think they deserve her affection for doing nice things.He also says that these kinds of guys like to think they’re selfless when, in reality, they’re selfish.
“The difference between this ‘nice guy’ and the actual nice guy is that actual nice [guys] have no ulterior motive,” says Dargo.
Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“There is no agenda for being nice. He’s doing these nice things because he’s genuinely kind and caring.”
Dargo explains that you can often tell the difference between these two ‘nice guys’ types by paying attention to their reactions. The phony guys will do all of these nice things for you while seeking approval from you. It’s a major red flag when guys boast about being ‘nice’ but can’t make things work with someone.
Plus, phony, nice guys will often brush off women who don’t like them as being “dumb” because they’re only interested in “bad guys” instead of actually taking accountability and admitting that they’re the problem. These guys are likely to be lacking in confidence and are very insecure due to something that’s really affected them.
Often, the phony nice guys will become super resentful towards women who don’t want to be with them and can end up saying very demeaning and hateful things when they get rejected.
Actual nice guys don’t expect things in return. They enjoy doing things for other people without expecting some kind of pat on the back or a massive amount of praise.
In his video, Dargo explains that due to issues in his past, he used to be one of the phony nice guys. But through some soul-searching and self-reflection, he learned how to take care of himself and focus on self-improvement before opening himself up to an ideal partner.
“I hate ‘nice guys’ because I know you can be so much better than that,” says Dargo.
“Choose to be strong, boys. You’ve got this.”
@dargoyaki Something thats very personal to me, hope it has helped you boys out there. Share if it was helpful! #tiktoksg?? #datingsg #niceguy #niceguysfinishlast #niceguysyndrome
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:News