The Guy She’s Been Dating Revealed That She’s “Too Established” For Him, So He Wants To Stop Seeing Her
This 34-year-old woman met a 31-year-old guy on a dating app, and things between them got off to a slow start, which was not a big deal for her.
They started meeting up and going on dates once a week, but then things took off in a few months, and she really can say she likes him a ton right now.
She has been excited to see where everything goes with him. He’s a great guy, and he has a lot of traits that she finds desirable in a partner.
Not that long ago, this guy brought up something about her that has been bothering him a lot, to the point where he wants to stop seeing her.
“…He expressed that there is apparently a big issue from his side where he thinks my life is already too established for him,” she explained.
“I have already bought a place before, and I’m looking at buying a bigger house for myself and my little son. I run a business that earns a decent income.”
“I have basically achieved quite a few “life bucket list items” that he is aiming to achieve one day. He doesn’t own a place yet, but he wants to purchase one one day. He doesn’t have [a] kid at the moment.”
In response, she said to him that it was still possible for them to find a home to purchase together, and create a life that fits the two of them; not just her.
He argued that it would not be “the same” as starting from scratch with a woman and building a life from the bottom up.
Dragosh – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
He pointed out that she is successful and does not have to start at the bottom at this point in her life.
He also wants to be able to have a child someday and be the sole breadwinner and provider of his household.
“I said he can provide for me if he wants,” she said. “But I guess somehow me being where I am in life at the moment doesn’t make him feel excited to provide and care for…”
“I honestly don’t know what to think or how to move with this. I’m trying to reason with him that we can still have meaningful life events and memories together. But I’m afraid just because I am a few steps ahead in life, he thinks it’s not special to build and grow with me.”
“I never flex or tried to rub money in his face. I even hid the fact that I was a business owner when we first met (I never revealed that to anyone until we become comfortable with each other). I don’t wear expensive clothes or show that I have an expensive lifestyle. Sure, I might sometimes go eat a nice meal, but I think it’s fairly reasonable to enjoy life here and there. Other than that, I enjoy cooking at home with him.”
She’s left feeling terrible about her success and that being so put together has resulted in her not being desirable to men.
She’s also curious if she has done something wrong by simply being herself and not hiding her success.
What advice do you have for her?
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