Growing up, this 32-year-old woman got along great with her little sister, who is currently 27. But then, when her little sister hit the age of 16, she went on a wild streak for several years.
Her little sister’s wild streak ended by the time she was 22, but the damage was already done. Her sister never ended up getting a college education or doing anything to really advance herself in a career sense, either.
Her sister eventually got married to a man who does make enough to afford for her sister to stay at home with their son.
While her sister’s husband is able to make their rent payments, there has been no money left over for them to save up to purchase a home.
She is not like her sister in the least in that she has completely focused on her career and being able to succeed.
“My husband and I do not have children yet as we spent our 20s getting our education and a career,” she explained.
“I am a nurse anesthetist, and my husband just accepted a gynecologist position. He has some crazy student loans to pay, and I still have some (but thankfully less).”
“We just put a successful bid on a house, and I announced it to my family, thinking they would be happy for me.”
While some of her loved ones were excited about her becoming a homeowner, her sister was not thrilled.
Her sister instantly reached out to her to ask if she could give her money to pay for a down payment on a home too.
She informed her sister that she and her husband have a mountain of student loans to pay back, and adding that to their mortgage payment means they don’t have the money to help out.
After she said no, her sister complained to their mom, and her mom is on her sister’s side. Her mom pointed out that she is financially better off, so she should help her sister out.
“I told her while my sister had the freedom to enjoy life in her younger years, I was studying and working on my career,” she said.
“I would have loved that freedom, but I chose a different path, and I’m finally starting to benefit from it. It’s not fair that now my husband’s and [my] work has translated to financial success, it [is] now expected I start helping everyone else who got to enjoy their life.”
“She got mad and said I’m her sister, and so her success is my success, and I’m obligated to help.”
She has chosen to give her mom and sister the cold shoulder, but she’s curious if she is wrong for not wanting to give her sister money for a down payment on a house.
What do you think? Is she obligated to help her sister out?
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