Being set up by a well-meaning sibling is annoying, but what would you do if your sibling and their friends ambushed you and collectively decided your love life is their business?
This 25-year-old man has spent the last two years single, and he loves being a bachelor. Prior to his independence, he was in a committed relationship, so at the moment, he’s not trying to be tied down by a girl.
He has a 28-year-old sister whose hobby is matchmaking, and he despises this. Since he’s currently single, his sister has been forcefully pushing girls she knows on him.
“The problem is she mostly ignores my preferences and says she knows me better. I prefer someone around my age (±3 years), [a] natural beauty, conservative, and not a single mom. She usually suggests the opposite, and I shut it down every time,” he explained.
He’s been spending the week at his sister’s house, and yesterday, he ended up walking right into a girls’ night he didn’t know his sister was throwing.
All the girls had a bit to drink, and as soon as his sister spotted him, she dragged him over to her friends and told him about one girl, Cathy, who was there that night.
His sister’s friends instantly started gushing over how he would be the perfect guy for Cathy, and they said his sister is clearly the best at setting people up.
He was horribly humiliated and wanted to vanish into thin air. He did try to make an exit, but all of his sister’s friends wouldn’t let him leave and began badgering him with questions.
Cathy appeared to really like him and wanted to chat, and meanwhile, his sister’s friends kept insisting they would be an amazing couple. They also began organizing a date, without asking him!
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He informed the group that it wasn’t the right time and, once more, tried to get out of there, but they prevented him from leaving again.
His sister’s friends interrogated him on whether or not he was interested in Cathy, and he danced around the subject by responding that it felt strange, considering Cathy is friends with his sister.
“They kept pushing and saying Cathy doesn’t mind that connection and can handle rejection if I’m not interested. Fed up, I asked my sister directly whether Cathy matched my preferences. She whispered almost,” he added.
“They demanded to know my preferences. I tried avoiding it, but eventually said it. They claimed Cathy matched them and then started questioning my no single moms preference.”
“They kept asking what’s wrong with single moms, and finally, I said single moms are not worth the baggage they come with, and I don’t want to be anyone’s savior. The room went completely silent. I felt the awkwardness and left immediately.”
His sister ended up calling him out later on for being mean. He reminded her that he honestly answered after her friends backed him into a corner.
Apparently, Cathy is a single mom and is having a rough time with guys because of that, so his remark really offended her deeply.
His sister said that Cathy is undergoing a breakdown now because of what he said about single moms. He does not know Cathy; he wasn’t aware that she’s a single mom, and he didn’t intend to hurt her feelings.
“I just stated my preference after being pushed repeatedly. My BIL agrees with me, but told [me] how I said my likes was a bit [of a jerk] move,” he concluded.
His sister was a jerk to put him on the spot like that, knowing how he feels about dating single moms. No one should be pressured into dating someone they’re not interested in, and repeatedly ignoring someone’s preferences isn’t cute or clever.
But how he framed single moms was judgmental, as many aren’t damsels in distress, and he could have been kinder about that part.
What do you think? Is he wrong for having the preferences he has, or is the issue entirely in how he expressed them?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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