If you were scared of your spouse cheating on you just because they were entering a profession brimming with people of the opposite gender, would you think that’s more of a reflection on you than them?
This 33-year-old woman has a 35-year-old husband who is currently in nursing school. Before her husband embarked on the journey of his new career, they discussed at length how nursing is a very female-dominated industry.
That alone greatly upset her, but she was convinced she could get over it, as she doesn’t think her husband is the kind of man to cheat on her.
But now that he’s well on his way to completing his education, she hasn’t been able to shake her uneasiness and her irrational envy.
“I would never want to stop him from accomplishing a life goal. I know this is more of a me problem, and I need to work on my confidence,” she explained.
“I’m a year postpartum after having two children back to back, so I’m still in the thick of raising toddlers and [staying] home with them for now.”
“I’m just hoping I can overcome the jealousy and feel content with his career choice. I am proud of him for pursuing school again in general – I just thought he would choose another route.”
She has contemplated that nursing would be a better career fit for her than her husband, which is further complicating her feelings.
Her husband didn’t pursue nursing because he’s passionate about it; he just thought healthcare would be more stable for him to be working in.
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She’s left wondering if anyone else would be bothered in her position.
How much do you want to bet that by the time her husband is able to be a nurse and see patients, he’s going to be too exhausted from his job to even think of cheating on her?
All jokes aside, she needs to get her insecurity under control; she either trusts her husband or she doesn’t. And with how she’s acting, she definitely doesn’t trust him, though it seems to entirely stem from her own issues and not because he did something to warrant her suspicions.
The real problem here is her, and how she doesn’t feel worthy of her husband or like she’s a catch, so of course she’s going to be consumed by fears of him finding someone else. P.S. The hot nurse trope, I’m sure, isn’t helping.
And finally, I do wonder if she’s seeking a more meaningful career, like nursing, than what she has going on now. That very well could be contributing to her jealousy, and since she thought this career would be a better option for her than her husband, that’s why I’m thinking she’s yearning for more of a purpose.
What advice do you have for her? Why is it that sometimes, we view our partner’s professional growth as a direct threat to our personal security?
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