There’s really only so much you can take when it comes to a spouse’s bad behavior or inability to fix the damage they’re doing. How much would you be willing to put up with before wanting a divorce?
This woman got married to her husband 15 years ago, and he has a serious drinking problem. At the end of last year, she put him in rehab, but he left to come home for Christmas against medical advice.
On Christmas Day, he relapsed, while she was home sick with the flu and caring for their three kids. He never admitted that he left the house to go drinking, because he made up some insane story instead of telling the truth.
Her husband went back to rehab because he couldn’t stay sober, and lied to her by saying his therapist had called him and suggested he return to complete the program.
Her husband proceeded to try to leave against medical advice once more, but his counselor outed him to her and said he really shouldn’t leave due to his relapse, which she presumed she was privy to.
She did attend family counseling with her husband while he remained in rehab, and she outlined to him that if he wanted to pick drinking over her, their marriage was finished.
“We also discussed how his alcoholism affected me, including him never helping around the house, leaving me to do all cleaning and cooking, although I was the primary breadwinner, and how this pushed me into survival mode, taking important moments away from me with our 3 children,” she explained.
She additionally brought up the financial struggles her husband caused due to his bad spending habits. He actually left her in debt to the tune of thousands of dollars.
Her husband spent one more month in rehab before he was given the green light to go home. She thought he was sober for one more month following his release.
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But two months ago, she learned that her husband had relapsed once more, on her birthday, no less, and while she was working a double shift.
“I then told him that I want to separate. While separated, I slept with another man. He asked me whether I did, and I was honest. He then began name-calling me, screaming, and belittling me while our children were right outside,” she continued.
“He then called me when I was driving to work to continue yelling at me, which our children heard, resulting in them asking what was going on. He then tried to force me to tell my child (8 yo) what I did.”
“And then told my children (2,7,8), ‘We will never ever be getting back together,’ to which they started sobbing and wailing. He states that I am the one [who] ruined our marriage and that what I did was worse than what he put me through for 15 years.”
She’s left wondering how to deal with her husband.
I’m surprised she hasn’t left him already, considering all that he made her put up with. But now is the prime time to leave him, because he will never get better.
She and her kids will certainly be happier without him, even if they can’t see it just yet.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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