If your spouse left you for a random person they met at the gym, would you make the divorce difficult and make them pay you what you felt entitled to?
It’s been 20 years since this 34-year-old woman and her 35-year-old husband Jordan first got together, and they started out as high school sweethearts, then got married over a decade ago.
A couple of years ago, she and Jordan began trying for a baby, but it ultimately didn’t work out. She was very frustrated, and after undergoing a bunch of tests and seeing some specialists, it was determined that she’s the infertile one.
“I’m ok, I’m dealing with it, I thought we’d be dealing with it together. We won’t be, because instead of working through it with me, he decided to get some rando from the gym named Megan (38f) pregnant,” she explained.
“She’s due in September or something. I found out a few weeks ago. We are obviously divorcing. It was out of nowhere for me, but I’m going to be ok. I’ve been ‘in therapy’ for years, but have hated every single therapist, so I’m not sure it’s for me.”
“Megan is apparently anxious to be married before the baby is here. Don’t ask me why she decided to have a baby with someone who was already married; that’s not my problem. She has two other kids and sells insurance. That’s all I know about her. He’s moved in with them, and I filed for divorce soon after I found out about the woman and the pregnancy.”
The thing is, she’s not allowing Jordan to walk away from their marriage so easily, which he and Megan find very upsetting. She acknowledges that perhaps she’s bitter, but she wants to take Jordan to the cleaners and get what she deserves.
Her dad is generously paying for her lawyer, and she made it clear that she’s not in a rush to get the divorce over and done with.
She wants alimony, considering she helped Jordan build up his successful career, and he makes excellent money. Right now, she doesn’t make anywhere near what he does.
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Anyway, her state laws dictate that she’s entitled to alimony, so she informed her lawyer that she’s not compromising on this one, and her dad is on her side.
“Jordan and Megan are losing their minds, though. I have them blocked now, because of all of the hateful messages they’ve sent me,” she added.
“The weird thing is that I know I seem bitter for doing this, but it’s not even that? It’s not even hate. I just am looking at him and the last 20 years and I’m embarrassed for wasting so much time on him. And I think I deserve something for that.”
“I also want the house. I put the down payment on it from the money from my grandmother, and I have put all of the blood, sweat, and tears into it. I’ve also paid into the mortgage. I’m not discounting anything he’s done, but I don’t care.”
She has since told Jordan that if he agrees to all her demands, she will sign those divorce papers ASAP. Many people have implored her to remember all of the amazing memories she has with Jordan and say she must still have some love for him deep down.
But she doesn’t. She’s not a monster, and she’s not spilling Jordan’s biggest secrets or deepest fears. She’s hust not allowing Jordan to dump her for some random girl he met at the gym without paying the price.
These people truly don’t understand why she’s being difficult here, which hurts, because Jordan was the one who cheated on her, and she feels entitled to certain things because of how he imploded their marriage.
“People might think I’m bitter, maybe I am. But no, you don’t get to abandon me and go and start a new life with some gym rat just because things got tough. Well, you do get to, but it’s going to cost you. I don’t care if he needs ‘money for the baby,'” she continued.
“He can always make more. I can’t get the last 20 years back.”
I don’t blame her for not wanting to budge over what she thinks she should get out of Jordan ruining their marriage. It’s really not her problem that Jordan didn’t consider alimony or anything like that before getting Megan pregnant.
Jordan and his baby mama can take a hike, and she should hold out for all of his money. Then go on to live happily ever after with it.
What advice do you have for her?
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