A Few Weeks Into Dating A Guy, He Planned A Romantic Vacation For The Two of Them, But Then He Quickly Dumped Her For A New Girl, And She’s Heartbroken
This 27-year-old girl met a 29-year-old guy on a dating app, and the sparks were flying instantly. In the beginning, he was FaceTiming her constantly, he was communicating in a very intentional way, and then, he asked her to come with him on a passion-packed getaway.
“He ends up taking me on a romantic, whirlwind trip only a couple weeks in, plans the trip, and it’s amazing…It’s super fast and over the top, but I assumed the vibes were right,” she explained.
“He seemed into me – the physical connection was strong/I felt emotionally connected, and we had mutual friends. He tells me, “Not to sound like a psychopath, but I usually don’t care about people, and I actually care about you.”
“I met some of his close friends, and they assured me that he felt differently about me and that I wasn’t just another girl.”
Not long after all of this went down, he told her that he had another vacation booked with a couple of his friends for a whole week.
He then asked her if she could petsit and housesit for him while he was away, and she said yes. After he left to go on his trip, things stayed the same between them.
But as the days wore on, he began texting her less, to the point where he was basically silent, even as she was texting him updates on his pets.
“I see a post with him and a group of people, one of those people is a girl who is super close to him in the photo,” she said.
“I feel sick to my stomach because he’s ignoring my texts at this point, but also, we’re just dating, so he’s technically allowed to be close to a girl/ have friends, and I chalk it up to overthinking, but can’t help but think who is this girl and why ask me to pet sit if you don’t see me as something serious.”
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“In the weeks that follow after he returns, I can sense the vibes are off. His communication become so minimal he makes barely any effort to see me, call me, and I can sense him pushing me away. I confront him, and he tells me he feels I am not putting any effort into him.”
She really took what he said to heart, and given that he had put together a whole elaborate vacation for them, she was concerned that he might feel she was with him for not just a genuine attachment.
She also was aware that he was very stressed out about some things, such as work, so she figured he was just reaching out to her in such a way as to get her to realize he needed her to be there for him in a greater capacity.
While she usually takes a back seat when getting to know a guy and allows them to be the one planning and driving things, she changed it up.
She made an effort. She did her best to show her support. And yet, he kept pulling back. This only made her more worried that they were losing what they had.
Last Monday morning, he sent her a message to see if he could call her on the phone later that night, and her stomach dropped.
“On the call, he tells me that he is in a super bad spot mentally and has been neglecting work, friends, and family and has a lot of pressure on him and that he needs to end things between us before he ruins things between us forever by treating me in a way that doesn’t align with his values and that maybe in the future we can reconnect,” she continued.
She was disheartened to hear this come out of his mouth, but it wasn’t like she didn’t see this coming.
She did thank him for being honest with her, and she wished him the best. She was dejected as she hung up the phone, but she did appreciate that he didn’t seem to be lying to her about what was going on in his life.
Well, 2 weeks after their phone call that concluded what they had, that female friend of his that had promised her she was very special to him ended up posting a photo on social media.
The photo was of this guy and that girl he had gone on a trip with kissing. So, she was right; he definitely had been getting a little too close and friendly with someone else.
“She is in her early 20s,” she said about this other girl. “Younger than me – and more in the party scene.”
“He has blocked me from seeing his stories, but I am seeing from his friends’ posts he is with this girl now. I am sick to my stomach and can’t help but wonder if he lied to me and misled me, and why not be straight up.”
“Need help and advice. During our time together, he kept pushing me to open up and be vulnerable but can’t help but wonder why do that if your intentions weren’t sincere. I’m trying to pick up the pieces and make sense of it all, and he’s now on a trip with the new girl. This lady needs some support because I’m feeling heartbroken and confused.”
What advice do you have for her?
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