Most people spend their lives trying to avoid their worst-case scenario, but this man already lived through his. He lost the girl he thought was his daughter, and had to sue his way out of paying for another man’s kids.
He then rebuilt himself into a man who doesn’t negotiate with his past. So, when his new fiancée decided to play mediator for the woman who originally blew up his life, he saw a flashing neon sign that he was about to marry yet another woman who was out to use him and his money. He realized that in their eyes, he wasn’t a man to be protected; he was just a walking ATM.
Six years ago, this man divorced his wife after he discovered she had been cheating on him throughout their whole marriage. His daughter and his wife’s unborn baby were not his.
He had to go to court and fight paying his ex-wife child support, but since she committed paternity fraud, he was able to get off the hook after a hard battle.
His ex’s ex-boyfriend was the father of her kids, and his ex and his daughter moved into this guy’s apartment. He was able to keep his house in the divorce, and he had no rights to his daughter, which was terrible.
He loved this little girl and thought she was his, but he managed to move on with his life. He went on to meet a woman with a five-year-old son. They dated for three years before he proposed to her, and things were looking up.
“Then my ex’s life imploded. Her boyfriend died. They had a grand total of like $20,000 in savings. His parents were the beneficiaries of his $100,000 life insurance. They put it into education funds for the kids,” he explained.
His ex can no longer afford the lifestyle that she had, but he didn’t see how that was his issue. His ex’s family refused to help her, and since she has two little kids and no money, she’s been contacting him to help.
He found her requests insane and said he would not help her before asking her to quit reaching out. He ended up blocking his ex so she couldn’t keep badgering him for cash.
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Next, his ex-wife dropped by his place when he wasn’t there, but his fiancée was around that day. His fiancée and his ex ended up having a whole conversation.
“I’m in the wrong, apparently. I got home, and they were still talking. I need to help my ex. That’s not going to happen. My fiancée said that she wasn’t sure she could marry me if I was so heartless,” he added.
“I agreed and called off the wedding. I told her that [she] and her son had thirty days to get out of my house. She tried backtracking, but she had shown me her true face. I’m apparently just a walking wallet. I have zero interest in that.”
“My ex-fiancée moved back in with her parents. I made sure that everything that belonged to her was out of my house. [She] and her parents have been trying to contact me to get me to change my mind. I don’t see their point at all.”
He doesn’t think the woman he marries should agree with him on every single thing, but they should be on the same page about big-ticket topics, so that’s why he’s not interested in getting back together with his now ex-fiancée.
As for his ex-wife, she’s since moved in with the parents of her late boyfriend, but she and her children aren’t exactly welcome in that house, which is not his issue.
He’s left wondering if he was wrong to dump his fiancée after she took his ex-wife’s side.
His ex-fiancée wasn’t wise to issue him an ultimatum involving his ex-wife, and what a weird twist of fate to have his ex-wife do him a favor and expose his ex-fiancée as simply out to use him for her own personal gain.
What do you think? How do you backtrack after telling the man you love that he’s cruel for not funding his cheating ex-wife’s life?
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