If you, as a parent, can’t treat all of your children equally, you should not have more than one child. Just be one and done. If your parents treated you like garbage for your whole life in favor of your sibling, how would you feel?
This 18-year-old girl has a 20-year-old sister who was born prematurely, and her mom and dad have forever babied her sister due to that.
“She can say anything, ask for anything, do anything, and it’s all good. My parents will buy her what she wants and let her get away with everything/anything,” she explained.
“It has ruined her, and she’s a really [horrible] and difficult person who just won’t treat people decently. My parents always have excuses for her. Like always. But me…I could never get away with anything.”
“Not even bad stuff, but if I wasn’t feeling good, they made me go to school regardless, and they’d let her stay home. One time, I felt really bad and slept in school, and my parents were just like oh well, you had nothing that required you staying home.”
She can recall countless Christmases when she would ask her mom and dad for pricey presents, and they wouldn’t get her anything expensive or remotely close to the value of her sister’s presents.
Her sister would ask for thousands of dollars worth of gifts, and they accommodated her without issue, while her parents hardly spent $150 on her.
When her parents did spend that kind of money on her, they said she had to share her gifts with her sister. Her sister would brag about that and how she was more special, but her parents didn’t care.
If she tried to stand up for herself, they would get angry at her. She once got grounded for three weeks after calling her sister out for being a bully when she attempted to embarrass her in front of her friends.
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
Her sister isn’t the only one she resents; she resents her mom and dad, too, but she still wishes they loved her as much as her sister.
“Honestly, I wish they loved me, period, because I’m not even that sure they do. I’m not special in their eyes, that much is clear,” she added.
“But I also know they hate me now because I moved out of their house before my birthday, and I refuse to have anything to do with my sister. My grandpa let me move in with him, and my parents were mad at him for helping me avoid my sister.”
“They told me I should be ashamed of myself for treating my sister like I have, and they brought up how sick she was as a baby and acted like that makes her behavior okay. I wasn’t even alive when that happened!!!”
She’s so frustrated over how her parents and her sister treat her like garbage. She would love to cut contact with all of them, but she doesn’t feel quite ready.
Her grandpa is trying to get her a therapist to help her be able to one day quit speaking to her family. In the meantime, she finds it so hurtful to be treated in this way by the people who are supposed to cherish her.
Her parents don’t deserve her, but she is so lucky to have her grandpa, and she should focus on that. At least she has someone who loves and cares about her, though it is a shame it’s not the people who brought her into this world.
I think having a therapist help her work through all of this is a great idea, and I hope that one day, this doesn’t hurt her so much.
What advice do you have for her?
You can read the original post below.
By Bre Avery Zacharski
Hi, I'm Bre, Chip Chick's CEO! I have a degree in Textile/Surface Design from The Fashion Institute of Technology, and... More about Bre Avery Zacharski
