We all read about monsters in the headlines, but she’s convinced that the man sleeping next to her uses that same playbook as the men in the Epstein files.
Reading about all of the news surrounding Jeffrey Epstein has caused her to hold up a magnifying glass to the darkest chapter of her marriage, and she can’t forgive her husband for what he put her through.
This woman has been spiraling over all of the information coming out surrounding the Epstein files and how so many men appear to be getting away with their atrocious acts.
Lately, she heard a podcast that was discussing how the men who are in the Epstein files aren’t traditional predators, but they did seek out women over whom they had a lot of power and control.
The podcast outlined how these men were probably afraid to be rejected, so they used Epstein to give them girls they didn’t have to impress or treat as humans.
This all sadly ties to her husband, because he did act in a similar fashion.
“He had a short affair 3 years ago with a coworker (not technically his employee but definitely a subordinate at his workplace). She was 10 years younger than him/me, 25 to our 35, and worked a menial job at his company while he was a supervisor,” she explained.
“We had just had our second child (our daughter was 2 months old at the time of his affair, I was still on maternity leave) after a 2-year infertility battle that was brutal on both of us.”
“I caught him via his phone on my birthday during dinner at a restaurant (her response popped up to his text that read ‘I missed you so much today.’ He texted her this, his first day off in weeks… on my birthday.”
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Her husband swears that his affair consisted of making out with his coworker three times throughout the course of a few weeks.
She has tried to get more information out of her husband, but he has stuck to his story. Regardless, she doubts that was all that happened. She thinks more went on, but her husband doesn’t want to share that with her.
That affair destroyed their lives. She and her husband have a 5-year-old and a newborn, and she was ready to take the kids and file for divorce. She thought her life was over and done with, and she lost the will to live.
“Long story short, he begged and begged for forgiveness, literally on his knees. He took responsibility for his mistake. Allowed me to have full access to his phone and location, etc. He left his job and got a new position far from the old one,” she said.
“We did couples counseling (for probably not long enough). I trust that he has not done anything with anyone since then. But still. I feel sickened that I see parallels between him and [this] Epstein guy.”
“Using their power to prey on young women. Feeling entitled. Cheating on their wives. Just generally being sleazeballs. I wish I could hear about these sick men and feel lucky to know my husband is a different breed, that he is above that. But I don’t.”
Hearing about Epstein recently has brought back a wave of emotions she’s tried to put behind her. She’s not over her husband’s affair, and it still causes her pain on a daily basis.
The girl her husband cheated on her with was seeking attention from a married man and fed her husband’s ego. The parallel she can draw between her husband and some of the men in the Epstein files is that they all cheated on their intellectual wives for girls who were dumber, yet made them feel intelligent.
She’s got two advanced degrees from prestigious colleges, a job that pays her a lot of money, and her own opinions that can challenge her husband’s viewpoints, yet he went after a girl who was easy, nice, and paid him compliments.
All that flattery this girl piled on her husband was enough to make him stray. Her husband owns that his affair partner was super sweet to him, but that makes her feel like her husband is saying she’s mean in contrast, and using that as an excuse for what he did.
She’s growing older as we speak, and she’s insecure about it. She can’t help but feel like an elderly hag, and she’s scared that the only reason her husband picked her over his affair partner is that he didn’t want to come across like a terrible person to their loved ones, who are upstanding guys.
Their family and friends find her husband revolting for cheating on her, but they supported their reconciliation process.
“I’m struggling. And it makes it worse somehow that we have a daughter [whom] I feel helpless to protect in this sick world,” she concluded.
I can’t really understand why she’s staying with her husband, so my guess is she’s only doing this for the kids, which is a terrible reason to stay.
She definitely needs to talk to a therapist, and honestly, she should consider filing for divorce because this just sounds like a toxic situation for her.
What advice do you have for her? How much of her current spiraling is about the affair itself, and how much is about the societal pressure on women to remain young to stay valuable?
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