How would you feel if the person you were dating demanded that you give them your entire life savings so that they could buy cryptocurrency with it? Would you be inclined to fork over the money?
This 29-year-old woman has a full-time job that allows her to work remotely, and she’s also the partial owner of a small business. She has a 28-year-old boyfriend who has a normal 9-to-5, and he lives several hours away from her.
Throughout the last six months or so, her boyfriend has become really invested in cryptocurrency and stocks. She’s done her best to be supportive of his new interests, but her problem is how spontaneous he is when making trades or investments.
“He tends to go all-in or take big risks based on what he feels in the moment. Yesterday, I was in the middle of an important meeting when my phone started blowing up with messages from him saying, ‘Answer me,'” she explained.
“I got worried something was wrong, so I checked. He immediately told me to send him money NOW because he was about to miss an opportunity on a specific altcoin.”
She replied to her boyfriend that she was in the middle of a very important meeting and wanted to know if they could speak when she was done.
The meeting was with a potential partner of the business, and she didn’t want to make a bad impression on this person. But her boyfriend didn’t listen to her and kept on demanding that she give him her entire life savings, which she confirmed is a large sum of money.
He even argued her meeting wasn’t as important. She didn’t instantly get back to him, as she was not willing to end the meeting, so her boyfriend started calling her nonstop, which was distracting.
After she wrapped up the meeting, she went back to look at his texts to confirm that her boyfriend was, in fact, trying to get her to give him all of her money, and indeed he was.
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Her boyfriend said he wanted her money to buy cryptocurrency with it and promised he could pay her back later on in the day, after he received money from a stock he sold.
“He said he was panicking because Bitcoin was going up and he believed this other coin would follow, and that he couldn’t use his own money because it was tied up in stocks,” she said.
“He is usually reliable with money, and I trust him to return it, but he wasn’t exactly asking for a small loan – he demanded ALL my savings with little to no time to think.”
“I took about 30 minutes after my meeting to think about what he was asking because I felt really uncomfortable. It just seemed extremely impulsive, and I didn’t feel okay being pressured into it.”
Her boyfriend did say he was angry with her because she dragged her feet, since she could tell he was anxious, and she caused him to miss out on the investment.
He yelled at her that she cost him $400 and said she should have made him the priority over her meeting. She let her boyfriend know that he was being rude to her, which made him even angrier.
From there, he called her some terrible names and hurled insults at her, which he has never, ever done before. Finally, he said he was finished with her, so now she’s wondering if she messed up big time.
“I understand he was stressed and felt like he might miss an opportunity, and I do want to be supportive. At the same time, this felt like a really unfair, out of nowhere, high-pressure demand involving a lot of money, and he wasn’t even asking… he was talking to me in a really rude and demanding way, and I felt really disrespected,” she concluded.
She wants to know if she was a jerk for declining to give her boyfriend her entire life savings.
Wow, there is a lot to unpack here. My first problem with her boyfriend is that he was willing to put all of her money on the line for a measly $400, so he can’t be that good at what he’s doing, because that’s not a big return.
The second problem I have is how mad he got when she didn’t give him what he wanted (which was a big ask), and the third problem is how he insulted her.
This guy is a massive jerk, and she should really do herself a favor and dump him over what just went down instead of excusing what he did.
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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