Chip Chick
The baby was born around a week ago, and her boyfriend ended up taking his baby mama home from the hospital with the baby since she couldn’t find someone else to drive her.
Fast forward to 8 months later when she had the baby just before Christmas. She stayed in the hospital until 2 days after Christmas.
She was ok with that, but when her boyfriend told her yesterday evening that he needed to change his work shift in order to take his baby mama and baby to a doctor’s appointment, she freaked out and started getting worried.
“He also mentioned in the conversation that he kinda looked forward to it because he could see the baby without having to spend time at her apartment which tells me that he isn’t comfortable being at her place,” she said.
“Since this morning he has said that she/the baby needs to go back for another appointment in a week. He has also told me that he has offered to give her rides to appointments if she asks.”
“At this point, I am feeling like the third wheel. I want to tell him that I am not comfortable with him seeing her (which if he sees the baby, he has to see her) at all.”
She doesn’t want to prevent her boyfriend from seeing his child, but she is very concerned about her boyfriend spending time with his baby mama.
“It might be silly but what if they become intimate?” she wondered. “What if they fall in love? What if… what if… what if…. basically all of my worst fears are coming back to me.”
“Additionally, every time he has contact with her it’s just a fresh reminder of this waking nightmare that I just want to go away but I’m trying my damnedest to be “okay” with it.”
“I don’t want to delude myself into thinking this is alright if it’s not. We’re not married, and while it will suck hardcore, I can still leave and move on with my life.”
