This Mom Let Her 10-Year-Old Son Have A Lock On His Bedroom Door And Her Sister Doesn’t Agree With This
A 30-year-old mom is married to her 32-year-old husband, and together they have one child; a 10-year-old son.
Her son is pretty introverted and enjoys being by himself in his room. Her sister lives right near her and has 3 children, ages 5, 7, and 12, and her sister’s kids constantly come to their house.
Her sister’s kids do interrupt her son, and as soon as they walk in the door, they run right for her son’s room.
Her sister’s kids have broken a few of her son’s toys, and so, it always upsets him when they make a beeline to play in his space.
She and her husband decided that it would be a good idea to install a lock on their son’s bedroom door so that he could keep the kids from ruining his things.
She and her husband also believe that their son is “old enough for privacy” and they do have another key so that they can access his room if needed.
A couple of days ago, her sister and her sister’s kids came to her house, and the kids all tried to make a run for her son’s room.
They were of course met with a locked door, which confused them all. She informed her sister’s kids that her son had locked his room, and it was his choice to open it up or not for them all to play in.
Her sister’s 12-year-old son wasn’t happy that her son’s room was no longer easily accessible, and he demanded to be let inside so he could play video games in there.
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She suggested that they play video games in the living room instead when lunch was over, and then her sister got involved.
“My sister was annoyed at me over this and told me that a 10-year-old didn’t need that kind of privacy and I was just training him to be rude and inconsiderate,” she explained.
Her sister argued that her own son didn’t need a lock on his bedroom, so her son didn’t need one either.
Unbeknownst to her sister, her nieces and nephews are the exact reason her son even needs a lock at all, but she didn’t bring that up.
Instead, she maintained that she and her husband stood by their decision to allow their son to have a lock and that was it.
Her sister tried another tactic and started pushing her son to allow his cousins in his rooms.
“My son isn’t good at confrontation as I said he’s quiet and he was clearly feeling uncomfortable so I told my sister to lay off and if her kids needed to play so much there was no reason to hang around after lunch as it wasn’t fair to make them sit there bored,” she said.
Her sister didn’t like that, so she stormed out of her house with her kids right behind her. Her sister complained to their parents, and she’s been accusing her of being “rude” for letting her son have the lock.
Her sister also thinks she’s setting her son up to be selfish for not forcing him to share everything he owns with his cousins.
She has always ensured that her son gets permission from his cousins to play with their toys when they go to her sister’s house, yet her kids never treat her son and his belongings with the same level of respect.
“Our parents are taking my sister’s side, stating that family shares things and besides having his cousins round to play will help make my son less shy and how he doesn’t need privacy that young,” she continued.
“My husband is on my side and has suggested my sister and her kids not come round for a while which honestly I’m leaning towards. Is it really that weird to give a 10-year-old privacy and the ability to decide who comes into his room?”
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